Post # 1
I’ve seen a lot of people on here talk about honeymoon registries, but I have never actually seen someone do one in person. What are your thoughts? I looked at honeyfund.com and it looked cute. I’m wondering if FI and I register for massages and dinners, etc, and put that on our wedding website if it would be acceptable.
Post # 3
You will get a lot of mixed opinions on this topic! If you use the search feature and simply type “honeyfund” in, you’ll get probably thousands of posts already made on this.
Personally, I am not a fan of them, and will not give to them. I will happily write you a check for you to use however you want, but I don’t believe in depositing money into a paypal account, where half the time the couple gets a check (minus fees paid, in some cases), and the money is not specifically earmarked for what I paid for.
For example, an acquaintance of mine “registered” for all of these fun excursions and add-ons for her honeymoon that she didn’t end up doing, but rather, pocketed the money. At that point, I decided I had no interest in participating in honeymoon registries, period.
Post # 4
I had a GF who did one of these…it seemed kinda cool at first b/c her entire bridal shower was built around the “honeymoon” since they both had separate houses w/ everything they could ever use. So the guests were encouraged to contribute to this.
My personal problem with it though was you could “pay” for an excursion…each one costing at least $100….but WHY would I just buy ONE? I certainly couldn’t afford 2 (b/c it was just the bridal shower after all) and what if nobody else bought the second one?
And the fact that they canceled the wedding a month prior….I heard they split the money minus all the fees and didn’t really get much out of it.
The ONLY reason I’d be potentially willing to give to one of these is if the couple were older and had lived together for years and had everything else they needed. But when I’ve seen them, they usually are registered at least 2 other places….so I just buy off the registry.
Post # 5
I don’t see what the big deal is. To me, a honeymoon registry is no different than a traditional registry. You are telling your guests what to buy you for a gift. A couple can return a gift from a traditional registry for cash just as easily as a couple can not go on an excursion that was given through the honeymoon fund. As long as there is an option to gift the amount you want instead of set amounts and minimums I wouldn’t mind. However, if the website is going to be taking money off for fees etc, it almost just seems better to not register and imply that you would like cash only gifts.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine, but I think it’s probably good to register for some other stuff or maybe say something like “We can’t really afford a honeymoon, but we’d love to go somewhere. So if you don’t know what to buy us please feel free to add to this!” But don’t make it so people feel they can’t buy you a gift, because some people will want to, and some people will think it’s tacky. So have it like an after thought/option.
I would be fine to give money, I’ve known two people ask for money at their weddings,
1, where they said they’d like a house and money towards that, but also registered for stuff (we bought them a kite shaped like a pirate ship, because they liked pirates, but we’re quite poor so we couldn’t afford much to the house fund and it would have felt cheap)
2, They registered for nothing, and just wanted money towards a new set of couches. I thought that was kinda rude, it’s not something they needed, or something the groom was overly excited about.
I know that got a little rambly, I hope I made sense with the point I was trying to make!
Post # 7
Wow, there definitely are mixed thoughts on this! I’m still not sure, part of me thinks it would be fun to register for a couples massage for hte honeymoon, part of me thinks this might come off as tacky.
Post # 8
For me, it depends on the type. What you suggested, I would be fine with it. It is an actual gift. If it’s just asking for money towards a honeymoon then why bother registering?