Post # 1
My fiance and I have been talking about setting up a honeymoon registry in addition to our retail registry. I don’t know how I feel about it…I was all for the idea until I mentioned it to my mom and she said she thought it was tacky. Granted, I did frame it as “it’s sort of like asking people for money.”
I know that registries overall are asking people for things, though I have to wonder if a honeymoon registry is more like asking people for $, which gives the impression of being tackier.
What is everyone’s opinion on this?
Post # 3
I think the ones that have specific things listed, like massages, and dinners and that kind of thing are kind of cute. If your mom is worried just spread that you’re wanting cash by word of mouth.
I always give cash at weddings, so it doesn’t really bother me either way.
Post # 4
Thanks for your feedback. 🙂 I actually don’t really feel like we NEED cash (though money is never bad). I thought, since it doesn’t seem to make sense to register at another retail store, having $ towards our honeymoon would make it easier for us financially. But I don’t want to offend anyone or come across as tacky.
Post # 5
I’ve received nothing but positive feedback on ours. People love the idea of something new instead of “pots, pans, and towels” off a traditional registry. We listed specific excursions and dining we wanted to do.
Post # 6
It’s too much like asking for cash for me.
Even when couples register for specific dinners and things, I know they don’t receive a voucher for Chez Louis restaurant they just get cash that you hope they apply to dinner.
So for me it’s a turn off, but others feel differently, and that is ok.
Post # 7
we did one, and so far, we have not heard any negative feedback. We did an alternate one at Target for those who are more traditional, but for the most part, people have stuck to the honeymoon registry.
Post # 8
We set up a honeymoon registry and it was well-received. Honestly, I don’t really see it as any different from registering for “stuff.” As a wedding guest, I just want to be sure I gift something the bride and groom will actually like/enjoy, so I wouldn’t have any issue with “buying” something off of a honeymoon registry.
But there are some (typically more traditional) people who disapprove. Of course, they always have the option to give cash, a traditional gift or absolutely nothing! We actually encouraged charitable donations in lieu of gifts (we set up donation pages and linked to them from our website), and then included a secondary message that mentioned the honeymoon registry for anyone who felt compelled to honor us with a gift. I would say that about 2/3 of the gifts came through the registry.
Post # 9
We are going to do one. To me its just like a retail registry but instead of asking for pots and pans that i dont want, i would be asking for an excursion or dinner that we would actually enjoy. Plus people who feel it is tacky dont have to purchase from it, especially if you have a traditional registry also.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your feedback. 🙂 I appreciate the opinions, because I have a tendency to overthink things and overly consider what reaactions it will bring. So the feedback is very helpful.
Post # 11
we’ve gotten nothing but positive feedback from our depositagift.com honeymoon registry. we have a more traditional one at macys, but people are using the honeymoon one more and my friends are even builing the shower theme around a honeymoon shower. don’t think of it like registering for money…think of it like registering for experiences/things that you can’t at a dept store. we really had fun with ours, explained why this was perfect for us and what our plans were and people have eaten it up!
Post # 12
People loved our Honeyfund.com registry. Our friends are all late 20’s-late 30s like us, established, have the home goods they need. We got probably 90% of our gifts from that registry, and the rest off small amazon.com and CB2.com registries we set up.
Post # 13
As a wedding guest – I view it is identical to asking for cash. I never give cash at weddings and I would never purchase from a honeymoon registry. Honestly, they just give me an icky feeling.
ETA: For what it’s worth, I’m 23 so I’m not some older, “more traditional” generation either.
Post # 14
I wanted to do it, but it made me a little uncomfortable- I think it depends what your guests are like.
Post # 15
I do think its basically asking for money. The only reason I dont like honeymoon registries, is instead of just getting cash as a gift, you now get cash through this “registry” that takes a cut!! Granted, its a small cut, but why would I want to give anyone a cut of my cash, just to say its a ‘registry’. To me, its not fooling anyone… money is money, whether as a check in a card, or through a registry.
Post # 16
Ya I really dont think its tacky so many girls do it!! We are debating weather or not we are going to set one up, but I have heard be careful bc Some of them take a precentage out.. But I dont think its much different its a gift no matter if its towels or helping with the honeymoon.