Post # 1
I was looking for honeymoon spots last night and saw that you can register for your honeymoon package. I personally wouldn’t have a problem if I went to a wedding/shower and the couple chose to do this and I do prefer it to the Pinterest idea of having a “Honeymoon Fund” jar at the wedding since once you’re at the wedding you’ve most likely already contributed a gift. However contributing to the honeymoon AS a gift I think is an okay idea. Also, I’d probably register at a home decor store like The Bay or Bed Bath & Beyond in case people are put off by the honeymoon registry concept.
It’s a new concept to me I don’t know if it seems more grabby than a regular registry. Opinions?
Post # 3
not a fan. Traditionally gifts are to help the couple start their life together and supply items for their new home.
Going on a trip isn’t a necessity.
Post # 5
Registries are not common where I live, but as a guest I would prefer to offer money (or buy activities or treats) from a honeymoon registry than from a conventional registry.
Post # 6
I don’t like how most honeymoon registries charge a few, some let the couple cover the cost of the fee instead of taking it out of the gift but I still don’t like it. I know some resorts like Sandals let you set up a honeymoon registry directly through them, so not sure if they still take a cut. I would rather just give cash than the couple not receive the full gift amount because of service fees.
Registries are changing, many couples live together and already have an established home. So often “traditional” wedding gifts are no longer needed by the couple. You could just have a small registry and people who don’t purchase a gift may give cash which you can put towards a honeymoon.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
I said i would love the idea… but i personally dont have the “balls” to do it. lol. People think its trashy. I would contribute to that as a gift if it were an option… But like Ms. Swizzle said, a trip isnt a necessity… But in some cases (mine lol) my fiance and I already live together; and pretty much have a lot of stuff, we honestly didnt know what to tell people we needed. lol. we thought about having a honeymoon fund jar but opted out…
Post # 8
There are a lot of strong opinions on this topic here.
Honeymoon funds take a cut of the money your guests give to you, and for that reason, I’m not a fan. Also, they’re one step away from outwardly asking your guests for money, which is a tad brash.
I would never buy a “gift” off of a honeymoon registry; I’d rather just give a couple cash (which I did for my cousin and his new wife, who only had a honeymoon registry).
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2015 - Los Willows Wedding Estate
Now a days since most couples already have their home established I think it is a great idea. A gift is a gift. Just because its a wedding doesnt mean the gifts have to be just for the house. Besides what do you get a couple who already has everything they need?
This is the case for me and Fiance. We bought our house 3 years ago and have pretty much everything already. I registered online with a registry company and I put a few house hold items (new pots and pans, new dishes an dnew bed linens) but other stuff is like to help us pay for the wedding, so i put things such as the photo booth, the dj, the photogropher, etc. And the best part is that the total price of one item can be divided into several parts so people dont have to spend that much. For example, my photobooth it says I need 20 but that is because the total cost is divided into 20 parts so if people wanted to help they could gift us with $40 towards our photobooth, and same for the other things.
People need to realize we are in a different era now. By the time the marriage comes the couple has already been settled in. Of course there are exceptions to this, but people need to realize that things are different now.
Post # 10
Ohhh I had no idea there was a fee I just quickly glanced at it that’s good to know, not sure I like that either. Thanks 🙂
Post # 11
I mean, that KitchenAid stand mixer isn’t a necessity. Or picture frames. Or lots of stuff really.
If anything, I would say that a honeymoon is more important than a second set of wine glasses, because it allows a newly married couple to bond away from home. Vacations are necessities in the work place- I see this in a similar way.
OP, I would contribute to a honeymoon fund, but I seem to be in the minority on the Bee when it comes to this.
Post # 12
I agree with you. The couple is often the one paying for the whole wedding and planning it pretty much alone. It’s a lot of stress, a lot of time and effort, a romantic vacation to take some time off together as a couple, away from the financial stress, jobs, and kids if they have any, IS a pertinent wedding gift, and personnally I would find it more useful for our couple than getting China, vases or a new vacuum.
Post # 13
honestly, its not necessary to have a “honeymoon fund”.
If you go into your wedding having everything paid (like we did) then all the cash gifts you receive can be used for the honeymoon (like ours will be). You dont need to tell anyone you are doing that.
Post # 14
Thanks for all the replies. So far this seems to be a hated idea but I can see where both sides are coming from. Personally, I’d put myself in the “I don’t care either way” group.
Post # 15
Just wanted to add that if you do a honeymoon registry through most travel agents, they will not take a fee from you or your guest.
Post # 16
Honefund.com does not require a fee. It gives the option of printing a certificate and the guest give cash or a check. I’m doing one! My group does not care if we ask for cash, put a jar at the wedding, or add registry info on the invitations. You just need to know your crowd and go with it!