I think that this whole “asking for money is tacky” thing is really stupid. You can ask for gifts, but not money. What? What’s the difference? Oh… money is easier you say? Huh… lol. I was told by someone on here that back in the day, women used to just have registries at their favorite stores, so having a registry wasn’t like “asking/expecting someone to bring you a gift”. I don’t know if that’s true because I never researched it but… nobody does that anymore anyway. People ONLY make registries for gifts for weddings/showers. It’s exactly the same thing.
I’m sure that some people will be offended or think it’s tacky, because people get offended over dumb things. Anyone who is very “traditional” minded might be offended by this. My mom has also advised me that “guests aren’t supposed to pay for your honeymoon, and you’re not supposed to ask for money; it’s considered rude.” But… why not? If they’re giving gifts I don’t want, why not pay for something I do want? The money goes either way.
I asked her why. She just shrugged and said that’s just how it’s always been. Imo, that’s always the worst reason ever. lol She eventually agreed, after I listed a whole bunch of reasons that it really just made no sense at all.
But like you said… you have things. So… you might as well either risk it, or have junk you don’t need. lol
My brother did it. They mostly got cash I think, but… it was there.They did a tiny registry and a honeymoon registry. But it wasn’t really listed anywhere, and nobody really told anyone about any of them… my mom didn’t know about them. I think they ended up getting money, but I’m not sure.
We were told by the guy at our venue that if you don’t have a registry, people just give you money, and that they tend to give you more money than an item would cost because it looks worse to give a lesser check amount. He’s in the business so… we’re inclined to trust him but… I don’t really know. I think it might depend on the generation and area. My mom’s cousin bought my brother and SIL a huge pot/pan set that they totally didn’t need (they’re living with SILs mom). So… I’ve been afraid that if we have no registry, people will just buy us whatever they feel like, that we’re sure to dislike.
Yes, some people will probably be offended, but it doesn’t make sense because money is money, so I say let them be offended if that’s what they want. haha. If people have no reason to be offended, I try not to worry about it because they’re getting upset over nothing at all, just because they didn’t bother thinking about it. Even when I’ve tried rational explanation, they just still are offended. You can’t prevent/stop it. o_O Plus, I think it would primarily be your next-up generation and more traditional-minded guests, which probably narrows that list down somewhat.
You have no need for stuff, so I say either do a honeymoon registry, or (as per suggestion of that venue guy) do no registry, and supposedly you’d just get money. Which is as good or better than asking guests pay for a honeymoon.