(Closed) Honeymoon Registry..advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We did ours through wanderable. I just liked the layout of the site better. All “gifts” went through Paypal. The registry portion was free but Paypal will take a small percentage.

What I would recommend for the honeymoon registry is to make it about “adding to the experience” rather than “paying for a honeymoon”. Put gifts on there like spa treatments, watersports, activities, a special dinner etc.. instead of paying for your flight or hotel room.

The nice thing about this is you can specifically thank whoever got it for you and tell them about your experience or even include a photo.

Our honeymoon registry was very popular. We received all of the gifts that we had on there and they were most of the gifts that we received first. So people seemed to really like it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

We chose a hotel in Jamaica (The Jewel Dunn’s River) and they provided it through their website. We registered for a private dinner, swimming with dolphins, zip-lining and massages. We didn’t want to overdo it, but I agree with the PP – make it about a memorable experience rather than paying down your hotel bill.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance and I are registered through Traveler’s Joy.  I spent a lot of time creating our registry, and I hope that people will be encouraged to use it (not many gifts yet for our Nov wedding).  If you’re interested in seeing our page, PM me for the link.  I researched a bunch of different sites, and ultimately liked TJ the best.  While they take a 7.5% fee from each gift, I liked that they allow gift givers to pay by credit card (which most of my friends and family prefer).  Also, I found that the fee was comparable to most other sites, and I liked the layout of TJ.  It was super easy to set up the registry, and I’ve gotten good feedback so far. 

I agree with @scadadle15: about making it about giving you an experience.  We set ours up that way, so when people give us a gift, they are giving us a specific experience rather than chipping in for airfare or whatnot.  At the end of the day, we get money that we can spend however we want, so if we get tired and don’t take the horseback excursion we asked for, we don’t lose the money, but I think it’s nicer to phrase the gifts that way. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We used the website honeymoonwishes.com its amazing because you can customize it to exactly what your do. For example were going on RC Allure of the Sea’s and we were able to put the specialty restaurants on there and it was all specific to RC.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

we used depositagift.com  LOVED it. amazing customer svc. super easy interface (pre-made registries by destination). accepts credit cards. and you can actually register for more than just travel (a house, furniture, dinner dates, etc) everyone used it. lots of compliments 🙂

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hi!  We are using the Sandals registry that Honeymoon Wishes provides.  We love it and so do our guests!  Their fee is totally worth it and we got to choose from the activities that Sandals offers… it’s their stuff.  When I looked at HF, they just have you make up what you want.  This site has real products that we can have on our Honeymoon.  Also agree with scadadle, make it about the experiences, not that you can’t afford it!

 

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We used Wanderable and loved it. I agree with @scadadle15 about providing your own necessities and registering for extras. We’re covering our own hotel cost, but registered for a private carriage ride, a pass to all the historic sites, etc (all things to do). Even a fancy dinner at a particular restaurant we want to go to for one big night out.

Everything on our Wanderable registry was bought before a single item on our other registry. And we had a few guests lament that they didn’t get to it in time, and that they would rather have given us something romantic than a towel set 🙂 (guess they don’t realize how badly we do need the towel set!).

The other advice I can give is to make sure you’re doing a traditional registry as well, in case any of your guests have a problem with a honeymoon registry. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I am very against so take this information with that in mind

1.  You are not actually registering for a honeymoon.  You are registering for cash money.  Cash doesn’t ever need to be registered for.  EVERYONE likes/wants/needs cash.

2. Service charges.  If I as a guest want to give you $100, I will.  I’d rather not give you $92.50 through a website. 

3. Many guests don’t actually realize that when I give you SCUBA lessons you don’t actually get SCUBA lessons. I see this as deceitful (lying by omission).  If you register for a toaster, you get a toaster.  You register for couples massages, you get cash.

4. People who have a small registry or no registry tend to get cash gifts anyway, and it’s easier for guests to just give you a cash envelope, or a cheque then to go through a website.

5.  You still have to be able to pay for your honeymoon.  It could turn out that no one purchases from it, and you can’t really be relying on it to fund it.

6.  It is not polite to discuss cash or finances.  This and the “deception” factor are what make it not etiquettely approved.

7. You aren’t actually registering for a honeymoon.  You are just registering for cash.  (Oh right I already mentioned this one.  Can you see that this part really chaps my heiney?)

These are my main arguments against it.  I would highly suggest just not registering, and spreading by word of mouth that you are saving for your honeymoon.  You will get exactly the same results (without loosing out on a service fee), and risk no offense to anyone.

I can tell you that neither myself, nor anyone I know would contribute to one.  But we would give you cash.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I didn’t even notice it was the same poster.  And yes I did cut and paste as I have with several answers since the same questions are asked on a pretty much weekly basis, where few actually bother to read the other 100 posts on the exact same topic.

The poster asked for the good and bad.  This is the bad.  She doesn’t have to like it or accept it as true.

The snark however is not necessary.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are doing honeyfund for ours.  It is free to register for unless you want the “premium” version which isn’t necissary.  You can choose to put paypal on there as a form of pmt. which I did as I think most people would find it easier to use.  There is a small fee for the paypal, not the site.  But it really doesn’t amount to much and I personally picked up the difference.  For example if my friend did 25.00 towards wine tasting I got 23.90 and I picked up the other $1.10 because to me its not that big of deal and its not charging my guest as lets say shipping would.  There are also options on there that you can click that say mail check or give cash.  So for people who want to give cash at our wedding but would like to make it a bit more personal by suggesting we do “spa treatment” with it are more than welcome too.  I haven’t had a lot of people use it yet but I still have a lot of time before our wedding.  But Ive told people about it and they all seem very impressed and excited. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@andielovesj:  “A honeymoon is a perfectly appropriate gift to request,” says Peter Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt., etiquette think tank. “There’s no objection to it from an etiquette point of view.”

 

We used Honeyfund for ours.  We did the premium version just to give more options for the look of it.  I actually had fun setting it up and our guests responded really well to it.  Paypal took 3% if they used that but about half the guests just did a pledge and gave a check.

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