Post # 1
I’m getting married this December. My fiancé and I have been saving everything we have for the wedding because we don’t have much help. I’m a full-time student and he’s active duty in the Navy so he’s putting in the most. The wedding is small (about 20 people) and local. But even though it is much cheaper than the average wedding it is still a lot out of us. We won’t be able to afford a nice honeymoon. I really wanted to drive somewhere out of state and spend a week by ourselves but it is out of our budget. We will be spending our first couple of weeks as newlyweds, staying at his parent’s house. At the end of his leave he will return to his station in Virginia and I will spend half a year away from him in Florida, completing my degree. We won’t actually get to live together until late2013/early2014 depending on his looming deployments. I was wondering if anyone has been in this type of situation. Most of our first year of marriage is a continuation of the distance. Has anyone been in this type of situation? How did you grow from it? Has anyone had to skip a honeymoon or postpone it for a year or two later? I guess I’m just looking for some encouragement. I can’t help feeling down about our situation every once in a while.
Post # 3
We decided to postpone a more extravagent trip until we felt more financially stable, but we spent 3 nights at a B&B on an island just off the city after the wedding. Although it wasn’t the honeymoon I’d always dreamed of, we were both so surprised by how amazing it was. It was nice just to have time off with each other post-wedding – it didn’t seem to matter too much where that was.
If you’re interested, I actually just heard of a website this morning (we’re thinking of taking another trip now) where people put up either a room in their homes or their whole homes for a fraction of hotel costs – you can search a date and city and see what’s there – it’s https://www.airbnb.com/
Post # 4
We skipped the honeymoon. We were LDR and I finally moved to be with him. All my family came to us for the wedding, I didn’t want to miss them being in town. That and we have no money. Hang in there you can always do a honeymoon for your anniversary gift to each other, which is what we are going to do.
Post # 5
Thank you both for your advice. I recently realized that we will have less than 2 weeks together after we get married. Knowing that, it has made me cope more with the fact that we are going to be skipping a honeymoon. We just will go on a nice long vacation together later.
Post # 6
My fiancee is in the Navy too! 95% of our relationship has been spent apart, as well as our entire being engaged period. Since he only gets a small amount of leave for our wedding, we are planning a 1 year anniversary trip instead, since we have been saving for a house, travel, wedding, furniture, and so forth 🙂