Post # 1
My biologicall mother died when i was 4. My aunt raised me since and i call her “mom”. I dont want pitty or simpathy from anyone, so i dont want to propost a toast or speach to my dead biological mom. What are some ways to honor my biological mom at the wedding without makeing my aunt/mom feel uncomfortable, and without haveing to litteraly say somthing?
Post # 3
We did a small shout-out to my grandfather and DH’s mom at our wedding. Honestly, our officiant just added in a little blurb in her intro portion of our ceremony that was something like “We have in our thoughts so-and-so and so-and-so, who are with us in spirit today.” I don’t remember the exact wording but it was short and sweet and to the point. We didn’t want to make a big fuss.
I will say that even that much was enough. My grandmother came up to me after our ceremony and hugged me and told me how touched she was that I remembered my grandpa on my wedding day (He was my mom’s step-dad, not my blood grandpa.)
She was your mother and your aunt’s sister. I doubt having something small to honor her is really going to make your aunt uncomfortable.
Post # 4
You can add a small charm with her picture on it to your bouquet, leave a symbolic empty chair, light a memorial candle with her picture next to it on the guest book table, make donations to a charity in lieu of favors if she passed from a disease, or write a small something in the program… there are a lot of options and you can make it as public or private as you like. My mother passed away a little less than two years ago so I’ve thought through all the options already.
Post # 5
We plan to have a memory candle lit during the ceremony along with small pictures of our family (grandparents and FIs brother) who are deceased…
Post # 6
I’m including small picture frames in my bouquet to honor my great grandparents, my great aunt, a deceased grandfather and my Future Husbands grandfathers. We won’t announce the information at the wedding but the family will know. I vetoed the empty chair because my great-aunt recently passed and we were very close. So the empty chair thing would probably leave me bawling. We will also have family pictures on display a the reception.