(Closed) Honored Deceased Grandfather

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think if it feels important to you it’s definately something you should explore.

You probably want to think about what you know of your father’s relationship with his father, and, as you’ve indicated that he’s the only grandparent who’s no longer with you, I assume your grandmother will be there. Do you have any inclinations as to what she would think about it? If after giving thought to how they’d feel, and you feel positive about it, definately go ahead and talk to both your father and grandmother.

One other question- did your grandmother remarry? If so, what is your relationship with your step-grandfather, and what is your dad’s relationship with his step-father? I ask because both my parents lost their fathers at an early age, and both my grandmothers remarried before I was born. I’ve growing up knowing my step-grandfathers as my only grandfathers. While I have love for my biological grandfathers, it is very different, and more honorary, than the real love and relationships I have for the grandpas who I’ve known and have been there for me all my life.

If you have a similar situation you may want to think about not hurting a step-grandfather who probably thinks of you as his granddaughter.

Finally, I lost both my grandmothers a couple of years ago and I’m so sad that they never met my fiance and wont be able to see me get married. I’ve decided to do something that I’ve seen done quite a bit lately, which is attach small lockets with their photographs to the ribbon wrap on my bouquet. I may also print something about them in my program. Either way I know I’ll be carrying something of them with me the day I get married, but I don’t risk getting too weepy because it will be sweet and private- and only the people who it would matter most to, my grandmothers’ children and grandchildren, will know.

Perhaps a smaller tribute like this would work for you…

 

 

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