(Closed) Honoring a Deceased Family Member

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure if I would do that in the program. You could leave a spot where she would sit in the ceremony and put a rose in the chair, and at the reception, leave a place without a setting, and just put a picture frame with her photo in it, and a smaller frame or tent card under it with a paragraph on that. 

 If you do put it in your program, I wouldn’t put it under our thanks, I would put it under "Special Recognition." or something to that effect.  

Post # 4
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Adriana26 – I’m so glad you asked this.  My FI’s father passed away about 3 years ago and we are wondering how to include him in our day as well.  We are not putting his name on the invitations.  Through my reasearch, I’ve found that a deceased parent’s name should be off the invitation because they are not actually throwing the party.  Instead, we are planning on mentioning his name in the ceremony programs, probably separate from the other family members that we will be mentioning and seperate from our "thanks" section.  I’ve thought about leaving a chair for him in the ceremony but I don’t think my Fiance wants to do that.  I like the idea of having a photograph at the reception for him too – as LLauRRa suggested for your FI’s mother.  Good luck!

Post # 5
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I had a very close friend pass away 5 months before the wedding. 

To remember him, I placed a rose on a reserved seat and I had a tiny framed photo of him at the table where he would have sat.  It was like 2" x 3".  I ran it by the other people before and of course everyone was ok with it.


Post # 6
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

My FI’s father passed away 9 years ago and it was extremely tragic/sudden.  We want to recognize him in some way, but also do not want it glaring at us because the death was so bad that it may upset some family members.

I actually was thinking we may include him on the invite since the party is hosted by my family, not his.  It would read something like this:

"J & F, parents of E, cordially invite you to the marrige of E daughter of J & F, to B, son of L and the late J."

We may have a picture of him on the gift table or have a separate "in memorium" table but will not reserve a place at the wedding or reception for him.

Post # 7
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m in a similar predicament. I’m trying to find a creative way to make it known we’re remembering those who couldn’t be with us.

I’d prefer something that’s not written in the program.

The framed verbage is a nice idea, I may try that, Erindesmar!

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