Post # 1
My fiance’s mother passed away when he was young and we want to do something to honor her for our wedding. His father will be starting the unity sand along with my mother, and we will have each of our parents wedding photos on display at the reception. This is pretty subtle but should we do something else.
I found a beautiful song today (A Mother’s Song) that I think would be really sweet to play at the reception like during the typical Mother/Son dance but i don’t want him to stand out there by himself. Should he dance with his little sister (4 years difference) or a grandmother?
Suggestions please bees!
Post # 3
I can’t speak from experience because I’ve not had to deal with losing a parent (so sorry for FI’s loss, I can’t even imagine). But I can say that, as a guest, a mother-son dance with… no mother… would be a little awkward. Even if he had a stand-in, like a sister or grandmother, I can just imagine shifting uncomfortably in my seat and being like… well this is weird.
I want to honor my grandmother and my great-aunt at my wedding, because they have both passed away – and I was thinking of having a candle lit with each of their pictures near it, or something like that. It is a small and unobtrusive reminder of their memory and when guests see it they will understand, but it doesn’t take a ton of time out of the celebration of our new lives.
I think subtlety is the way to go with this.
Post # 4
I’m going through the same problem. My dad past away last year and I wan’t my fi to dance with his mother but I find it kinda weird dancing with my step dad. I was going see to skip it all together but that wouldn’t be fair to my Mother-In-Law.
I am though having a charm from etsy of a pic of my dad on my bouquet. You can do a pic of his mom on there. That might help.
Post # 5
I’m not sure about the dance, but if i was your Fiance it probably would make me very sad if i did the mother/son dance with someone else. I couldn’t be happy during that dance and i would rather skip it than being sad on my wedding day.
I didn’t watch the video to that song, but if you like it so much you could give your Fiance a handwritten card or letter with the text from that song the morning of the wedding day or the day before. Maybe that is a nice gesture to show him that you care.
I had a photo of my DH’s father and a necklace pendant from my grandmother on my bouqet to honor them
Post # 6
I’ve been tossing this aorund with my mom and some other people and they thought maybe do a brother/sister dance with this song playing in honor of their mother. She passed almost 14 years ago and yes, it’s sad that she won’t be there to celebrate with us but he knows she’ll be smiling down on us. Ultimately this is his decission, if he wants no dance there will be no dance I’m just trying to give him some suggestions just incase.
Thanks for the suggestions! Others are also appreciated.
Post # 7
My husband’s dad passed away the winter before we got married. We had a special seat set aside for him during the ceremony (with a photo of him and a sign saying that it was in memory of him). Near the beginning of the ceremony, right after I walked up the aisle and my parents “gave the bride away”, we went together to lay a bouquet of flowers on the chair and had a moment of silence.
Post # 8
I am getting married in October (five years after my Mom’s death). I am wearing my Mother’s wedding band (even though her and my Dad were divorced) and having a large bouquet as the alter decoration in her honor (with her fave flowers). I will hold a small picture of her.
Post # 9
I would say have flowers on the alter for her, and at the reception instead of doing a mother/son dance, I would create a slideshow of pictures of your Fiance and his mom, with the song as the music, then display it with a projector.
Post # 10
reading what you did made me cry. My father passed away in September from lung cancer right, and I’m getting married in July 2012. I’ve been reading all these posts about honoring a deceased parent but yours made me realize exactly what I need want to do. Thank you so much.
I’m so sorry to any other bee’s out there who will not be celebrating with a loved one by their side as well.
Post # 11
My father passed away from lung cancer in January. It’s really inspiring reading about what other Bees did to honor their loved ones.
Post # 12
Although it was for my brother not a parent I did something similar to MaybeeBecca
, We kept a seat at the front for him and as I walked up the aisle I lay a flower on the seat. I also wore one of his flight tag pinned on the inside of my dress. I also got an extra bouquet made and have laid it on his headstone.
Post # 13
We’re skipping the dance too. It was actually my FMIL’s idea because she was afraid I’d be down about it.
Post # 14
My FH lost his mother a year and a half ago and he’s planning to dance with his sister. I’d like to get him cufflinks with his mothers picture or initials on them and have found a pair on redenvelope.com but am still searching. Still thinking of other ways to incorporate her.
Post # 15
I did a bouquet charm and also a poem in the wedding program.
Post # 15
This one made me ball my eyes out. I absolutely adore the sentiment in this. I lost my dad just a few short moths ago. It was very sudden and unexpected. I still don’t know how on Earth I am going to make it through our special day without losing my shirt. I don’t want to cry out of sadness and spoil an otherwise beautiful event. Thanks for your suggestion. It is really lovely.