Post # 1
my best friend passed away last year. i never imagined she would not be standing next to me at my wedding as my moh. would it be disrespectful to another friend if i asked them to stand in her place as my moh? or is there another way to honor her? what do you guys think?? we are only planning on having an moh and best man stand with us at the alter. i really have no idea what to do. any advice would be great.
Post # 3
sorry about your friend.
can you list her in the wedding program in memory of those who couldn’t be there.
i think it would be weird for your Maid/Matron of Honor to be a placeholder for a deceased friend who you would rather have as your Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
I agree with @ajillity81: that an appropriate way to honor your friend would be to include a note in the program, or perhaps to have her picture on a small table with others who are no longer with you whom you also may wish to honor (deceased grandparents, for example.)
I would ask another friend to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but I would not ask her “to stand in place of” the other friend.
Post # 5
I lost someone really close to me before the wedding; I ordered a bouquet charm from etsy with his picture on it, so that he’s at the front of the church with me, and walks me down the aisle. Maybe that is an option?
Or you could save a seat in the front row, with a little candle on it?
Post # 6
@Brielle: +1 totally agree!
OP I had a bouquet charm with my grandmothers pic on it. You could do something like that and also include a note inthe program. Or possibly leave a seat open in the front row for her with a candle or a bouquet of flowers on the seat.
Post # 7
@weddingbound: Your bouquet charm is so beautiful! If I had heard of this idea before my own wedding, I definitely would have considered doing the same thing with my beloved grandmother’s photo! What a wonderful way to honor your grandmother and to keep her memory close on your wedding day, and what a special keepsake you now have!
Post # 8
I am honoring a loved ones a number of ways at my wedding. My mom, and FI’s father and brother
1.) Charm on my bouquet and my sisters bouquet of my mom
2.) Mention in the program
3.) Candle with a poem with her picture on the memorial table along with FI’s dad and brother who also passed. Along with a corsage for her, and boutainneire’s for my Father-In-Law and Brother-In-Law they would have wore if they were still with us…
4.) A rose in the seat they would have say if she were still alive
Post # 9
@Brielle: This, exactly. Well put.
So very sorry for the loss of your friend