Post # 1
My fiance’s best friend died 2 years ago in his sleep. He was 20 years old and this was all very unpredictable and very devastating. He was supposed to be a groomsman in our wedding. We want to somehow honor him in our wedding (his mother, sister and brother will be attending) but I don’t want to depress anyone, or go over the top. We are having an outdoor ceremony and would like to include him, my grandmother, and my FI’s grandmother somehow. We were very close with these 3 people and want to incorporate them in our special day, in the classiest way possible.
Thanks ahead of time for your comments! 🙂
Post # 3
I chose to have a white rose for each person in my bouquet. That way, they would still be with me when I walked down the aisle. The priest also made an small announcement during the ceremony that this was how we were choosing to honor our loved ones. Did he have a favorite team for a sport? You could leave a spot on a chair with his favorite team’s hat to symbolize his presence.
Post # 4
We had a few people pass away in last couple of years and months leading up to our wedding (we have been together 7 years). So to honor my grandparents, my great aunt and uncle, my DH’s grandmother and best friend who would have been best man we did a single flower for each one. We put their names on the stem of the flower and put each in a bud vase. Darling Husband thought it might be kind of a downer seeing the names kind of on display at the reception but everyone really appreciated it, it was lovely.
Post # 5
I like the table of flowers idea. My Mother-In-Law is talking about blowing up a picture of his friend and sitting it on an easel like up with us at the ceremony. I think that is way too “in your face” especially for his mother and his brother and sister who will be guests at the wedding. I want a way to remember him, and our grandmothers in a nice way that won’t be depressing or morbid. I want it to be a happy occasion, but to just let everyone know that we really miss them and wish they were there to share the special day with us.
We are having the ceremony outdoors, so I’m kind of stumped as to how to do a memorial type thing. I wanted a candle and all that stuff ( we can’t have open flames inside th reception hall), but that would mean we would need some sort of table set up near the front of the ceremony to hold the candles or whatever we decide to do.
My Mother-In-Law is helping with a lot of the planning, and she’s thinking that we don’t need chairs except for the older people and people who have kids, but I don’t want to just walk down the middle of a group of people standing up. I want them to be seated and then stand when I’m about to walk down the aisle, like a normal wedding. Renting chairs is expensive, but I don’t know how many chairs come with the rental place. It comes with table and chairs, but it might be too much of a pain to lug the chairs back inside after the ceremony so that they can be used during the reception.
Post # 6
My brother’s best friend died about a week after he got engaged. He ended up having one less groomsman the day of, and everyone knew why. It was touching for him to not be replaced.
To honor my FI’s grandparents who have passed away, we’re putting an “In Memory Of…” section at the bottom of our programs.