Post # 1
Recently I found out that my Grandma’s brain tumor has come back aggressively. She has had this happen 4 times before but they were always able to operate, but this time they can’t. So basically, my grandma has been given a death sentence and they have no idea how quickly it is going to get bad, but they do know it will get really bad. Other than it being a horribly sad thing that I am going to soon lose the only grandparent I have ever really been close with, there is a good possibility she won’t be able to make it to the wedding. Even if she is still with us, she might be very sick and unable to attend due to other reasons. It feels morbid thinking about it, but because there is such a large probability that she will leave this world before my wedding I have been trying to think of some ways that we can honor her on the day if that does happen or she can’t be there due to illness. Planning has always been one way that I deal with events or thoughts I don’t want to deal with. I guess it is a way of placing control on a situation that I can in no way control at all. So, I have some ideas like a photo of her on a chair at the ceremony or maybe dedicating a song at the reception to her, but I wanted to hear some other thoughts you all might have who are dealing with the same thing or have went through this before.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Post # 3
I’m sorry. I know how hard this is.
My gramma loved rosaries. No joke – she probably had 50 of them. So I’m carrying a doll-sized rosary in my bouquet for her.
We’ll also have a picture of her at the reception. We are considering having a white rose on an empty chair but I’m not sure if it will be too depressing..
Post # 4
@Firinne: I’m really sorry about your Grandma…I’ll keep you both in my thoughts.
One of my favorite things is when brides put a single rose (or Grandma’s favorite flower) of a specific color in their bouquet (e.g., a bouquet of white flowers with a single red rose) and in the program, they say “the single red rose in Bride’s bouquet is to remember her loving Grandmother.” That way, in every photo of the day…every moment you look at the bouquet…Grandma is always with you.
Post # 5
We were married on my husbans grandparents anniversary. He was named after his grandfather, who had now passed away, and his grandmother is in her 90s and was unable to attend. I made a bouquet charm with a picture of them and a poem his grandmother wrote for us and tied it around my bouquet. I love to look at it now and it was really special, especially for his mom and I (they are her parents) at the wedding.
Post # 6
All wonderful ideas! The charm is so cute and I love the idea of a flower in my bouquet to represent her on the day. Thanks so much for your input!