(Closed) Honoring LGBTQ guests at your wedding

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think you need to honor them more than your straight guests.  The thought is nice, but I would feel weird being singled out for any characteristic I had.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I would like to prominently display a white knot somewhere at the wedding.  Still deciding on whether to put up a description of the significance of the white knot since both of our families are super conservative and we don’t want to start a fight or argument with one of them over it during our wedding day.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@peachacid:  +1!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We put out a basket of white knot pins attached to cards to explain what it meant.  That way, guests could choose to wear them or not – I’m proud to say most guests did 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think putting a word in your program about marriage equality would be nice!!  Or if you are doing a welcome / thank you speech at the reception, saying something about equal rights.  However dedicating a first dance to someone/something other than your SO seems odd.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@beachbride1216:  I was thinking of doing this!  Having white knots on safety pins available for guests to take!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I haven’t actually thought about this at all… Just because it hasn’t crossed my mind! I think it’s a nice way of supporting equality..

 

Can you name your tables after states/countries that have legalized same-sex marriage & then have a wee blurb underneath about the dates/reasons/etc.? Or wear a white knot somewhere on your bouquet? 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@abbylyn:  What did your cards that explain what they meant say?  I’m liking that idea more and more!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve been to a Jewish wedding blessing where the rabbi poured a bit out wine (for blessing or something) out of the cup into a seperate cup, while saying that it was to diminish our joy slightly in solidarity with those who cannot marry, and that we will only drink a full cup of wine when everyone has the right to join in marriage. I thought it was really awesome that she did that, especially considering one of the people holding the chuppah was gay. You could try incoporating that concept into your wedding, even if your are not Jewish.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

love the white knots and wine idea (if wine is at all incorporated in your wedding).  I’m proud to be marrying in a state that recognizes same sex marriage and living in a state that just passed marriage equality yesterday!!!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissHobbit:  I would consider asking discreetly if your guests in attendance would mind being singled out in any way. We had a handful of same-sex couples at our wedding and we didn’t treat them any differently from our non-same-sex couples and I’m not sure if they would’ve wanted to be acknowledged in a different way.

However, I’m all for promoting marriage equality as a general school of thought, so a blurb in the program would be nice and discreet, without riling up any of the other guests that may think differently.

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