(Closed) Honoring loved ones who can’t be there

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We left an empty seat for my husband’s mother, who passed away ten years ago. We had a framed photo of her holding him as a baby, and I laid my bouquet on the chair as a gift of respect to her – my way of thanking her for having and raising him. I never got to meet her, but we had so much in common that I wish she were here today so that I could learn from her!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We know so far that somehow the officiant will mention my grandmother in the ceremony and my mom is also dedicating our recessional (The Way You Look Tonight by Frank Sinatra – her favorite singer) to us in her honor.  Also, I will in some way be wearing her wedding band whether it be on my right hand or on a chain around my wrist or neck.  We may also put a picture of her up at the reception (my grandmother was incredibly important to me, the one person I wanted at my graduations and wedding, and died when I was 14 so I want to do as much as possible).  

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mandb122: I love the dedication! WHat a great idea :-). I forgot to add that I had a locket with a picture of my grandmother that passed away 3 weeks before my wedding. It was attached to the ribbon wrap of the bouquet with a vintage hat pin.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are leaving one empty seat on either side with a daisy on the chair. Each of us have had loved ones pass or that are special to us but just can’t be at our wedding (for example, my 93 year old great-grandma, who lives in Nova Scotia, can’t be around a lot of people/noise). I also plan on making a “memory wall” with photos of the FH and I growing up. Some of those photos will include those people. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thankfully the majority of our families are alive and well and will be in attendance. The only person who isn’t is FI’s grandfather who was his hero. He’s been gone for a long time but we still want to acknowledge him at our wedding. We plan to put a remembrance in our program in honor of him.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I put a poem for my mom in our programs and another one for everyone else(there are too many to list individually). I am also making cracker favors in honor of my grandmother(she is old and not doing well, so it is very doubtful that she will attend). Our recessional will be Tara’s Theme from Gone With the Wind in honor of my mom and the song is also written out in our program. I will also be wearing my grandmothers ring on my right hand or attaching it to my bouquet. I wanted to do the chair thing, but my father said it would be too sad, so I am finding other ways to honor my mom and others’ that will not be physically present.

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we are leaving an empty chair beside my mom in honor of my Father. As the bridesmaids walk down the aisle they will place a rose in the chair.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m adding two bouquet charms, one for my grandmother and one for my grandfather.  I’ll also hopefully have some chamomile in my bouquet as another remind of my grandfather.  We’ll definitely have something in the program.  And I’m coming up with something special to remember FIs friends that are serving overseas and can’t make it.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we’re conflicted about what to do to honor FI’s mom. he doesn’t want to not acknowledge her, but he also doesn’t want to do something that will upset him. we’re getting married within days of the anniversary of her death which i was concerned about, but he says is good…it will turn that time of year into a celebration for him instead of a time of mourning. it will have been 6 years a few days after our wedding, so it’s not a fresh wound.

one thing i definitely would like to do is have old family photos around. we’re getting married in an old house and there are lots of mantels that are perfect for displaying photos. all of our grandparents (all gone but one who most likely won’t be able to travel to the wedding) will be “honored” in that way. i still think we should do a little something extra for his mom though, just haven’t decided what.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I carried a locket with photos – I put it on a ribbon and wrapped it around my bouquet. People still got emotional when looking at it, but it was a great way to honor those who couldn’t be with us…it’s hard to decide what feels right in these situations though.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

In our ceremony we had a moment of silence for family members that have passed away and our officiant read their names. The moment of silence was also to recognize those that do not have the civil liberty of marriage.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We made a photo board of the grandparents from both sides, and then made all the photos sepia to match… it was placed by our card box on the placecard table.  

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