Post # 1
My Mom passed away from cancer last year. We were very close, so I want to do everything I can to make sure that she’s still a part of my big day. Fortunately, when she was still alive she was able to contribute to my wedding by helping me fold my origami cranes. In Japanese culture, the bride folds 1000 paper cranes to practice patience and to bring good luck. I will be including one of the cranes that my Mom folded in my bouquet and the rest will be framed to display at my wedding. I’m not sure how else I want to include her in my wedding yet, so I’d love to hear what you have done or any ideas that you have!
Post # 2
The cranes are a beautiful and sweet touch, so thoughtful of you. Did she have a favorite flower that you could honor her with as well? I am honoring my grandmother by having an arrangement of her favorite flowers, a picture of her and I and a little something in writing that will be displayed in a frame as well. They will be on a table when you enter the ceremony and we will move it to the reception as well.
Post # 3
That’s really beautiful! I wish I had something my mom made for my wedding!
I am cutting a piece of fabric from her clothes into a heart and sewing it inside the bodice of my dress. I also bought a locket that has the cover of a book she read to me as a child on the front and I’m putting her picture inside and attaching it to my bouquet. My family always does a Dia de los Muertos style altar (basically a decorated table with pictures of loved ones who’ve passed away) at weddings, so she’ll have a prominent place there too.
Post # 4
I absolutely love the writing idea! My Mom had throat cancer, so she wrote everything down to communicate with us and still had beautiful handwriting. I was also thinking about making a little bouquet for her, so I can use your other idea of using her favorite flower for that. Thank you so much for sharing!
Post # 5
Thank you! I’m really happy that she was able to help me. I guess thats one of the only “perks” of cancer. You prepare for the worst and you have time to really cherish the time you have left together.
That’s such an original and beautiful idea! I love that you also include the book that your mom used to read to you in your locket. My cousin did the same thing for her father, but it just had his picture on it. Thank you for sharing!
Post # 6
In honor of my fiancés dad who passed away, we bought a unity candle set that came with a memorial candle on eBay. It has his picture on it and says something along the lines of “as we say our do’s we’re thinking of you and know you’re with us” and below it has his DOB-DOD. We also found a picture frame that says in loving memory and we’re going to put it on a table by the entrance with rose petals and a figurine of a motorcycle. We’re also going to have the preacher say a few words.
Post # 8
I am very sorry about your mom. My mom passed away with I was 19 from cancer also. At my wedding, I put my moms name in our program And also attached a charm with her picture on it to my bouquet. My sister also mentioned her in her Maid/Matron of Honor speech.
I felt that I didn’t want to call too much attention to it on the day of because it was going to really upset me. Please be careful with how blatant the reminders are for you – the day is already an emotional day and I didn’t want my moms death to be the forefront of our wedding day so I chose to do two subtle things.
I hope you don’t think I’m being harsh – we really talked a lot about if it was important to mention her in the ceremony and whatnot and I decided it was going to be too much for me and I didn’t want to bawl my eyes out. Trust me – her presence was felt without doing too much to mention it to our guests. In my opinion, I didn’t want it to feel too much like a memorial.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Sloss Furnaces
My fiancés mother passed when he was a teen so I wanted one of our escorts to “escort” a picture of her to a seat on the front row that’s reserved just for her. We will also light a candle and dance to one of her favorite songs.
Post # 10
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. One of my friends, who’s Dad had died, reserved a seat in the front row of his wedding, with a rose placed on the seat. I thought that was a sweet touch.
Post # 11
I believe in remembering your mom with lots of things that are known only to you, and your family. Like her favorite song, her favorite food, color, flower, etc. And attaching a charm with her picture to a bracelet you are wearing or in your bouquet, things like that.
It would get a bit uncomfortable for guests if there were many announcements, and you don’t want someone making an ignorant remark like, “what is all this for?” about your mother. A paragraph about her in your programme, if you are having them, is nice too.
Post # 12
I am sorry for your loss.. These posts always make me sad because I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mom in 2013. Wedding planning is very bittersweet without her.. With that being said I have so many ideas to honor her throughout the wedding! <br /><br />My mom was an organ donor, so for favors I have made these for each of our guests. Basically the ribbon is seed paper. When guests plant the ribbon they will get wildflowers.
This would work great to honor your mom and get some awareness for cancer research!
Here are some of my other ideas:
I have a moment of silence written into our ceremony for her and we will also be having an honoring of both mothers at the end of the ceremony. Where me and my fiance will present each mother with a rose and thank our parents for everything they have done. We will place my moms rose on the seat we have saved for her.
I am also having a duplicate bouquet made of mine to leave at my mom’s grave.
I love how you were able to have your moms help with the cranes.. That honestly brings a tear to my eye. It is just so beautiful. I would definately have a sign or a note in your program sharing that story with your guests. My mom and I talked weddings lots while she was sick (even before we were engaged) and she had the idea to have each bridesmaid in a different color. She seen it somewhere and thought it was so cool, so naturally I told my fiance that we would certainly be doing that. I am trying to remember her with everything that I plan/do. It has helped me get through the hard days for sure.
Post # 13
I am sorry about your mother. You are so lucky to have the cranes and that is such a beautiful tribute.
My mother will be a year and a half gone when my wedding comes along and I still haven’t figured out the right tribute. It hurts to think about it as it is hard to plan it all without her. Unfortunately she was only ill for a few weeks when I lost her so I definitely didn’t get to say or do many of the things I would’ve wanted (including her being there to dress shop with me).
My heart is with all of you who are experiencing.
Post # 14
I don’t think you’re being harsh at all. I completely agree with you. I don’t want her passing away to be the theme! I just want her to be a part of my wedding as much as she would be if she were still here. Only a few of the details will be announced that they are for her like the cranes and having her name in the program, but the rest of the details like wearing her earrings, sewing a piece of her fabric in my dress, etc. will be kept to myself.
Post # 15
I don’t know if you would want to do this for the wedding or not, but just in general I just discovered this. I think it would be awesome for you especially since you said writing was her form of communication. You can get her handwriting on a necklace. http://gracieandme.com
I’ve lost both of my parents and Fiance has lost his mom to brain cancer. I plan on getting him one of those necklaces because his mom’s favorite movie was PS I LOVE YOU and she wrote them all letters before she passed. I would love this necklace but my mom died when I was 11, 11 years ago so I have no idea where anything with her handwriting would be. Just thought you might like this!