Honoring parents/family

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
47429 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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psyche1978 :  I think the hugs are fine. I would keep any memorial simple and subtle. Does your Fiance have anything that belonged to his Dad that he could wear? a tie or pocket square, cufflinks or a watch?

Post # 4
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So we did a quick rose ceremony right after I walked down the aisle but it literally was just our officiant mentioning how thankful we were for our families support and that we couldn’t have done it without them. Then, we each handed our moms a rose and gave them a quick hug. It took less than a minute. You could tweak this and include other family too.

Not sure as how to honor someone during a ceremony but I carried a picture of my grandparents wrapped around my bouquet & DH had cufflinks with his grandfather’s pic.

Post # 6
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Concerning deceased loved ones, we made an “On our wedding day, we remember:” note in our program, and have reserved two seats (bride and groom’s side) where we will have roses placed. There will be a rose for each person. 

Post # 8
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We hugged our parents after we’d been pronounced man and wife, before we walked back down the aisle in the recessional. I’ve never seen it done at the beginning of the ceremony, but don’t think it would look out of place or anything. I also like the rose suggestion – my SIL did this at her wedding (neither of the mothers knew) and it was a nice surprise for them.

As for honouring your Father-In-Law, that’s a hard one. My Father-In-Law suddenly passed about 1 and a half years before our wedding (DH and I had been together 7 years at the time, so I knew him quite well). DH didn’t want to draw any attention to the fact he was missing, so we chose not to have our celebrant say anything. Instead, DH wore his dad’s watch and drank his favourite scotch with the groomsmen when they were all getting ready. He also wears his dad’s wedding ring as his own. Only close family know this, but it was memorial enough for him.

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