- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
So starting in either June or July of last year, my best friend/MOH’s grandfather died. Her family lived with him and adored him and took care of him. Her father died when she was a baby so her grandfather was a father figure to her, her sister, and her brother.
A couple weeks later my uncle died. Barely 40 years old. With two little girls at home. He was working in Iraq for one of the private contracting companies, they were having a company race for fun and he had a heart attack. It was really awful.
Then a month or two later after that, my neighbor across the street of 15 years dies leaving his wife behind.
So by then you can imagine I was sick of funerals. But a couple weeks after Christmas my grandmother gets really really sick, and goes into the hospital in North Carolina, I couldn’t go see her because of work but everyone else went up and saw her. She seemed to get better, they let her out of the hospital and started her on Physical Therapy but very shortly after she went into cardiac arrest and died. Absolutely devastating. It’s very hard to try to avoid thinking how she didn’t even make it to see me engaged, let alone the fact that she won’t be at my wedding. She was an amazing woman. But moving on before I get thoroughly depressed.
I learned later that while I was in NC for the funeral that a guy who had been in my church group when we were younger had died in a rock climbing accident. I saw him occasionally at his job but wasn’t that close with him anymore but it was awful having another person pass on.
And then a few weeks later when I couldn’t take another death, another funeral. I’m told that a very good family friend of ours, and an old boss of mine, her husband took his own life. I went to their wedding, I painted them this really nice big platter when I managed a pottery painting studio with their names and wedding date, I even went to school with his son. There was more to the story that made it more devastating for her and his kids but I’ll leave that out.
But in a matter of 6-7 months I experienced all this. And it was really depressing to go over my guest list and have to delete those people off of it.
But to make a very long story short…I’d like to honor these people. But I don’t know how because I don’t want to make everyone depressed during my wedding. So something simple would be nice, something touching but not heart breaking. Because my cousins are going to be my flower girls so I don’t want them to be upset over their dad, and my family over my grandmother.
The only idea I have is a song called “Hear You Me” by Jimmy Eat World. But I don’t know where I would fit that in.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.