(Closed) Honoring the people I never wanted to take off my guest list

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

Wow, so sorry you’ve had to go through so much saddness.  Maybe you could light a candle for each person?  You could just include something in your programs about the purpose of doing this.

Post # 4
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry you have had so much loss in such a short period of time.  I cannot even imagine how you’re dealing.  I like Beagle’s idea.  Or maybe if you don’t want to light the candles, you could put all their names at the bottom of the program and say something about how they are with you in spirit, or you are thinking of them?

Post # 5
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s aweful you have gone through all this in such a short time! I like the candle lighting idea. Could you play the song while you do that? Or maybe have pictures of them by the alter or something?

Post # 6
4663 posts
Honey bee

i really like taking time out of the ceremony and lighting a candle in honor of the people who are there in spirit. maybe play a song whild doing so and have the length of the song be a time to reflect on those who have gone before you.

i was just at a wedding yesterday where they did this, it was very touching and in the program they listed the names of everyone and how the couple knew them.

p.s. i’m SO sorry to hear of all your losses in such a short amount of time.

Post # 8
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Wow, so sorry to hear of everything that’s happened in the 6-7 months all at once! Another idea might be to make a donation in lieu of favors in the names of all of those you have lost. You can put it on a little card to place at everyone’s seat to explain the favor.

Post # 9
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Are you having a church wedding? Usually there is a point in a Catholic wedding ceremony when the priest says let us pray for and you can pick the intentions, this could be a good time to pray for the people you have lost either individually or as a whole (so as to not make anyone depressed). You could also mention something in the program about how you would like to remember those who are here in spirit (or however you want to phrase it) and list their names. It is hard to balance such somber passings with a joyous occasion.

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