Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,
I know most women are against this but i really want to vow to ‘obey’ for us I feel it is relevant and I always knew this to be part of wedding ceremonies I saw as a child in Church weddings. But my to be husband is catholic and so we are having a catholic ceremony can we use this vow still?
Post # 2
I would have thought it would depend on who was conducting your ceremony. You can but ask.
Post # 3
I would be very surprised if this was allowed. Catholic ceremonies follow a very strict order or service, and obedience vows have not been included since the late 1970s.
I did wonder about the exact order of service when I got married (non-Catholic Christan marrying a Catholic) and I did look at this, out of sheer curiosity. None of the options offered obedience vows.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
We were married in the Anglican church (very high Anglican though) and were given the option of using the modern service or the older one which did include “obey” but the whole thing was much older language as well. We opted for the modern service, as most do, but the old service was still available and I would think this may be an option in the Catholic church as well. Your priest is the only one who can tell you for sure though!
Post # 5
There are a few different versions of the vows that are allowed. I’m not sure if there’s one with “obey” in it, but ask your priest. You can however, use readings and hymns about that subject as much as you want! So there’s always that option.