(Closed) Hook up sites in husband's email

posted 8 months ago in Married Life
Post # 16
5535 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

ashers7777 :  Look if you don’t believe him then end it. At this point there isn’t anything anyone could say to make you feel better. 

This is crazy, why have you dragged this out for so long already?  More than 2/3rds of your entire relationship with this guy has been terrible! 

Post # 17
851 posts
Busy bee

Bee, if you’re still falling for SPAM email as real, it’s time to take a computer course. God forbid you send your checking account information to a prince in Nigeria thinking he’ll deposit $2 million US dollars as a reward for helping him flee his war-ridden country. 

Post # 18
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

This is spam. That “fake” profile you saw is what’s called a ‘landing page’. It’s not something your husband created, its something the creator of the site/spam email created to entice people to sign up. You need to think long & hard about how this is affecting your husband. Imagine being completely innocent and the victim of a harmless spam email and being accused (sometimes angrily) of cheating for TWO YEARS. I was accused for cheating for 6 months and it drove me absolutely insane! Your husband is a saint for putting up with that. He is NOT cheating on you through hook up sites.

Maybe talk to your therapist about a medication adjustment because being furious and paranoid about this same thing for 2 years is not how someone with balanced medication should behave. I wish you all the best bee. Maybe go home and do something nice for your husband.

Post # 19
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Charliejeorge is correct.  That is the magic of spam – they try to trick you into thinking these accounts are real, but they’re NOT.  Your husband is NOT making them.  You need to find a way to get over this – you’re destroying your own marriage over some stupid people trying to make money via scamming gullible people.  Everyone in the world knows that everything and anything attached to a spam email is FAKE.

Post # 21
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

ashers7777 :  I constantly get those and I’m a female. Russian mail-order brides, hot dates, MILFs, free Viagra. It’s probably nothing. If he was actually on those sites, they wouldn’t be automatically routed to his Spam folder. Don’t open them again, they can contain malware.

Post # 22
937 posts
Busy bee

ashers7777 :  Even with your update… yes, I read that part, and these are just spam emails. I get spam emails to MY email account of hookeup sites I’ve never been on. A lot of these are probably also phishing emails, so everytime you click on them, you are giving them more of your/your DH’s info, which is probably why he is getting more. Unless any of these actually match his description or have a screenname attached to them, don’t worry about it.

I would be sick of it too if you were accusing me of something like this for the past 2 years. Stop going through his email and keep going to therapy. I can understand your paranoia to a degree, but you will get through this.

Post # 23
1030 posts
Bumble bee

ashers7777 :  Right, understand that opening and “interacting” with these e-mails via link clicks and following things to landing pages are triggering more spam. So while you think “Oh my gosh, this is proof,” basic tracking code written into the e-mails are also saying” Oh my gosh, this is proof…that this is an ACTIVE e-mail address! Eureka!” And then they attempt to trick you again. You can track and see which e-mail address interacts with or opens those e-mails — and that is what they are doing. In turn, it triggers more e-mails. And worse, if you try to log into an “adult account” that is a landing page, you ARE giving someone additional information. Meanwhile, they know you have an active e-mail address (they e-mail random addresses hoping to find ones that are in use, and these interactions verify they belong to humans). So you see more “proof” that he is cheating when another more aggressive round of spam is sent out. And your fear perpetuates. 

Right now, I have 5 “Hi, it’s Rachel”’s, viagra x3, 1 “Why did you block me on WhatsApp, Jeremy??” From “Melissa,” and 5x “It’s Maria, I want to talk to you ASAP!!”.  I obviously am not cheating on my partner, and I am not interested in women. I also don’t have WhatsApp or know anyone named Jeremy.

You may want to speak to your mental health professional about your current treatment plan and medication options. Further help in that area might help you deal with this a bit better. It honestly sounds like you have a very loyal, patient partner who is trying to stay transparent with you in order to help you as much as he can with your anxieties, which sound unfounded. 

Post # 24
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It is very likely spam. You need to get a grip and quick. You aren’t doing yourself, your son, or him any favors. You are actually being quite abusive to him.

Post # 25
9624 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

ashers7777 :  This is the third time you’ve posted this same thread. Any more duplicate threads will result in an account ban.

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