Post # 1
Like many women, I love to shop and find the best value for the money. Before my Boyfriend or Best Friend & I went ring shopping, I researched and went prepared with a list of several jewelers, even one that offered law enforcement discounts. We ended up only going to one. For some guys, bigger=better, but I’d rather have a smaller quality diamond or gemstone than a larger, lower quality stone. I am, however worried my Boyfriend or Best Friend is not as informed when it comes to jewelery shopping. I love him and will proudly wear whatever he chooses (he showed me the setting on a website), but I want to make sure he’s getting a good deal on the stone. We are not engaged yet, but I anticipate sometime before summer. How can I help him make a smart decision without offending him? Thanks in advance for your advice.
Post # 3
I think he will catch on and begin educating himself when he starts shopping around jewelry stores and realizes what a big investment he is about to make. My fiance knew nothing at first, but certainly learned along the way and ended up with a great choice! Talk to him about it and maybe do a little research together. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
I could be wrong, but the guys I know who have gone ring shopping have been given a bit of a crash course in the C’s once they get to the jewelry stores. My BF’s little brother was proud of his selection and showed us the ring and enhancer set he’d boutgh prior to the proposal, along with the certificates for the stones, and tried to explain about what made him choose those particular rings. If I hadn’t been in waiting melt down mode (or had been married or engaged) it would have been realy cute.
I think most men do research when they make a big purchase, be it a car, TV or e-ring. Try not to worry.
Post # 5
Strangely enough this is one of my concerns too! I really don’t want him going to a chain jewelry store and just picking any random ring on display that looks nice. I really hope he shops around, finds a good deal, does his research etc.
But he’s made it clear that he wants to do this entirely on his own, so I’m just going to sit back, let him do his thing, and trust that whateve he does it will be right for him.
Post # 6
Buy a stone on craigslist, pawn shop or from a broker and have it set into your setting.
The diamond market is in the crapper. My Fiance got a stone valued at 9k on blue nile for about $1900 from a broker.
Post # 7
I was so worried about this before Fiance and I got engaged! He’s not exactly a planner or doer, so I was kind of like, omg how is he going to do this. I explained to him that there were a lot of things to consider but as I didn’t really understnad the nuances of diamond shopping, I couldn’t help him much.
He shocked me by basically becoming a gem expert. In fact, he returned 2 diamonds he bought before he finally found a third that met his expectations (and way exceeded min!) I think when he realizes what a big purchase this is, he’ll start to do his research and shop around.
Post # 8
If you SO is smart with money in general and knows how important getting a bargain is to you, I’d sit back and trust him to make an imformed decision without input.
Post # 9
Thank you, hive for the advice and setting my mind at ease! He’s an intelligent and capable man, so I’ll leave it up to him and just relax. I will trust that he’ll do his homework, same as his other big ticket items.
Post # 10
maybe tell him just what you told us..
Post # 11
Frig I’m the same way! I told my Fiance that I wanted Moissy or Asha or at the very least, a second hand ring. What does he do? Shops at People’s which is the Can version of Zales. Ugg. It’s almost like they think the ‘smaller’ guys are somehow lesser
Post # 12
I agree with Isilme. Jewlers know the business and good ones with give your guy the run down on the basics. The one we spoke to even went so far as to show us which rings gave us more bang for our buck, which ones appeared to be larger than they were but were half the price of what they were imitating, how to tell if we were getting a quality product. And she OFFERED all that info. Not all humans are honest, but a lot are. If he’s a smart guy, he’ll do what is good for him and good for you. And it sounds like he is. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 13
I wasn’t worried about this and that probably shows my ignorance when it comes to diamonds esp (I know quite a bit about other stones)
My Fiance was the picky one, he had a standard and he kept trying to explain that to me, finally I got it, and it makes perfect sense now but before I told him that whatever we tried on from Zales type of stores to Birks all looked the same to me.
We got a good stone off a classifieds, we also had it appraised on the spot even though it came with a few appraisal sheets already.
I would maybe have a jeweller explain it to your significant other, as he may take it more seriously then and it will give him an idea that not everything in the store is the same. It’s a bit like buying a car (it may look great on the outside but you gotta look at the engine)