(Closed) Hope he’s getting a good deal

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think he will catch on and begin educating himself when he starts shopping around jewelry stores and realizes what a big investment he is about to make.  My fiance knew nothing at first, but certainly learned along the way and ended up with a great choice! Talk to him about it and maybe do a little research together.  Good luck!  🙂

Post # 4
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I could be wrong, but the guys I know who have gone ring shopping have been given a bit of a crash course in the C’s once they get to the jewelry stores.  My BF’s little brother was proud of his selection and showed us the ring and enhancer set he’d boutgh prior to the proposal, along with the certificates for the stones, and tried to explain about what made him choose those particular rings.  If I hadn’t been in waiting melt down mode (or had been married or engaged) it would have been realy cute. 

I think most men do research when they make a big purchase, be it a car, TV or e-ring. Try not to worry. 

Post # 5
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Strangely enough this is one of my concerns too! I really don’t want him going to a chain jewelry store and just picking any random ring on display that looks nice. I really hope he shops around, finds a good deal, does his research etc.

But he’s made it clear that he wants to do this entirely on his own, so I’m just going to sit back, let him do his thing, and trust that whateve he does it will be right for him.

Post # 6
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Buy a stone on craigslist, pawn shop or from a broker and have it set into your setting.

The diamond market is in the crapper.  My Fiance got a stone valued at 9k on blue nile for about $1900 from a broker.

Post # 7
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was so worried about this before Fiance and I got engaged! He’s not exactly a planner or doer, so I was kind of like, omg how is he going to do this. I explained to him that there were a lot of things to consider but as I didn’t really understnad the nuances of diamond shopping, I couldn’t help him much.

He shocked me by basically becoming a gem expert. In fact, he returned 2 diamonds he bought before he finally found a third that met his expectations (and way exceeded min!) I think when he realizes what a big purchase this is, he’ll start to do his research and shop around.

Post # 8
115 posts
Blushing bee

If you SO is smart with money in general and knows how important getting a bargain is to you, I’d sit back and trust him to make an imformed decision without input.

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

maybe tell him just what you told us..

Post # 11
3142 posts
Sugar bee

Frig I’m the same way!  I told my Fiance that I wanted Moissy or Asha or at the very least, a second hand ring.  What does he do?  Shops at People’s which is the Can version of Zales. Ugg.  It’s almost like they think the ‘smaller’ guys are somehow lesser

Post # 12
2893 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with Isilme. Jewlers know the business and good ones with give your guy the run down on the basics. The one we spoke to even went so far as to show us which rings gave us more bang for our buck, which ones appeared to be larger than they were but were half the price of what they were imitating, how to tell if we were getting a quality product. And she OFFERED all that info. Not all humans are honest, but a lot are. If he’s a smart guy, he’ll do what is good for him and good for you. And it sounds like he is. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 13
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wasn’t worried about this and that probably shows my ignorance when it comes to diamonds esp (I know quite a bit about other stones) 

My Fiance was the picky one, he had a standard and he kept trying to explain that to me, finally I got it, and it makes perfect sense now but before I told him that whatever we tried on from Zales type of stores to Birks all looked the same to me. 

We got a good stone off a classifieds, we also had it appraised on the spot even though it came with a few appraisal sheets already. 

I would maybe have a jeweller explain it to your significant other, as he may take it more seriously then and it will give him an idea that not everything in the store is the same. It’s a bit like buying a car (it may look great on the outside but you gotta look at the engine) 


The topic ‘Hope he’s getting a good deal’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors