(Closed) hope this doesn’t sound selfish…

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m sure you’ll get gifts, but they may have to ask others for the information.  Do you have a wedding website that it’s on?  They probably figured people would go there for information.

Post # 18
1530 posts
Bumble bee

I think people will definitely ask around so that they will know where you are registered.  You can always get the word out through your families if there are things you really want.  FWIW, my actual shower invitations didn’t have the registry information printed on them, but my hostess included a card from the store with the registry info. 

Post # 19
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

People will ask around or ask you.  Some will just go to the popular stores and do a search for your name.  That’s what I always do.

Post # 20
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

So I think I am alone in this, but I am glad they were not included. I don’t like when people include the information for their registry with the information. I hate to say it, but I think it’s…. tacky. If people want to know about a registry, they can ask someone in the wedding party, the shower host or someone close to the couple.

Post # 21
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

@kpenn: why would it be tacky? Because it makes a shower seem like a gift-grab? Well, that’s exactly the point of a shower; it’s supposed to be a gift-grab. 😉 And I think everyone attending a shower knows it.

Post # 23
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I don’t think it is selfish, but I do think people will ask. Maybe the hostess can get the word out before the shower?

Post # 24
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

@marigold.  No, it isn’t specifically because it seems like a gift grab, but rather the fact that it says “These are the gifts I want. Get me these.” as opposed to the registry being something a guest can inquire about should they choose not to give a gift they have thought of on their own.

Post # 25
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have gotten shower invitations without registry information before. In that case, I either called the bride or the Maid/Matron of Honor to ask where she was registered, no big deal. I’ve also just gone onto Macy’s website to search for registries since almost everyone registers there.

Post # 26
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’s tacky to do it for yourself, but when you’re hosting for someone else, it’s perfectly acceptable. The hostess usually doesn’t want to call up all 30 people she invited and tell everyone individually what the bride needs or where she’s registered–it’s easier for small showers, but for big ones, it’s simply impractical. It’s like asking the mother, “what does your kid want for his birthday?” and you telling him, “oh he wants THIS” and it just, in general, makes everyone’s life easier.

It’s not like a registry is, er “fun” gifts, they’re practical. Like a mixer or food processor. Things the couple NEEDS.

I hate having to actually ask where the couple is registered…I just prefer to be told. Then I can click, buy, and get moving!

Post # 27
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

I wouldn’t worry about it. My invitations to my shower said nothing about where I was registered and everyone figured it out. Even my mom’s ditzy but sweet good friend who was explaining to how magical it was when she went to bed bath and beyond and they all pulled up my registry for her.

Post # 29
1 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had a shower and no registry information was included on the invite and every single thing I received (no joke) came off of my registry.  I wouldn’t worry.

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