(Closed) **Hope** (May open flood gates.)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

There is an organization called “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep” that comes and takes pictures free of charge for families who know their baby isn’t going to make it. A couple of photogs that I know volunteer for them, and I see them come in sometimes (I work in a children’s hospital). A friend of mine who lost her baby at 3 days old said it was one of the most healing things for her family to have a photographer come and take family pictures of them all together, and they really treasure those photographs. I think its a wonderful thing. Everyone grieves differently, and for families who want to document their baby’s time in this world, its such a gift to them.

Post # 4
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well. first I think you should put a*** trigger warning*** on the title of the thread, but aside from that, I think many who have been in this situation would appreciate the photography. They are still mommies and should be able to celebrate their babies in any way they choose.

Post # 5
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Since I’m not in the situation I couldn’t even imagine why people would want pictures of such a horrible time in their life. This is something I can imagine no mother would even forget so I don’t know if I’d want pictures to make me cry everytime I see that. But then again I am not in that situation and would never judge someone on the way the handled the death of their child.

Post # 7
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’ve never been through this and hope I never do.  I think these pictures are good for those that they help.  People grieve differently and I can only imagine how much the photographers that do this help the families.  The pictures provide pictures of a baby that was such a big part of their life and will remain a large part of their life.  I, like you, was in tears looking at the pictures and I can’t even imagine the pain the families are going through in them. 

Post # 8
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You know, at first, I was thinking no way would I do this. but, I looked at the photos, and read the story of Lynda and Stephen with little Joshua, and I am bawling. Honestly, I think that the photos are the best thing that they could have done, and I’m glad the hospital thought to push for this. What a beautiful way to remember a child.

Post # 9
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

:: sob :: His work is beautifully and tastefully done.

Post # 10
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is horrible, just made my bad day even worse.  That is just so sad:(

Post # 11
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Since this is a possibility with us (this child I’m carrying is healthy, but each pregnancy is a big roll of the dice for us so who knows if our next one will be)–I think it’s beautiful. If I were to go through an entire pregnancy knowing that the moments after birth may be the only time I ever have with my child, I’d like those moments and that little life to be honored and remembered. It seems like keeping momentos of the birth of stillborn babies or babies that die soon after birth– including photos– can be helpful in grieving. 

Post # 12
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Those photographs are beautiful and so touching.

God willing, Darling Husband and I will never be put in this awful situation.  It would be one of our worst nightmares.  But if we do, having those few hours, days, or weeks captured so beautifully would be a wonderful thing to cherish as we’d move forward.

ETA: I am crying at my desk at work from these photos and stories.

Post # 13
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t know what to say. But if I could show you the goose pimples on my arms, I would Cry

Post # 14
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow. At first I was going to be negative nancy and say how horrible this was but then I actually read the article. It seems like it really helps the family that is going through it. I can’t say that I would or would not personally want that if God forbig something like that would happen to us but I can understand why some parents would.

Post # 15
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I was blessed with two beautiful healthy babies. Had I not been, I think this would have been such an amazing thing to have.

I think this man is wonderful for doing what he does.

Those stories and pictures may be some of the hardest things I’ve ever seen/read though.

Post # 16
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

One of my best friends lost a daughter to anencephaly, and a photographer from Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep came to take photos of her, her husband, and their 2 year old son with the baby, and they are so glad they have those pictures. It was really important to them to mourn her as a daughter and a part of their family, to give her a name, to celebrate her “birthday with God” with their other kids every year, and to continue to talk about her and remember her. She actually wrote a really beautiful blog post recently on the experience- I’ll see if she minds if I share that here.

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