(Closed) hopefully non-offensive wording for no children in the inviation

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Is this ok
    Offensive but gets the point across : (5 votes)
    11 %
    Not offensive at all! and gets your point across : (13 votes)
    30 %
    ....still leaves room for error, and it's offensive : (14 votes)
    32 %
    Not offensive, but seems like I just shouldn't bring babies, my 7 year old is ok though! : (12 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I’d be inclined to ask where you draw the line age wise?  But if you’ve put the numbers on the invites I don’t think you need to add the velum.  Most people will notice that not all 8 of the family are invited and the ones that don’t will ignore the velum anyway.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    To be honest, I wouldn’t put the wording in there at all. I would make the RSVP for two and if anyone questions it, explain it then. My sister did that and while she got some questions, no one took it too personally. I plan on doing no kids under 13 and will do the same thing.

    I think that someone *may* get offended with the line about the babysitter. I dont have children, but I have read on other boards about this.

    Post # 6
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    13290 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Putting that on there is offensive and is poor etiquette.  Invitations announce who is invited, not who is not.  You address the invitation to the guests, so “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” vs. “The Smith Family.” 

    It should be pretty clear to your guests when you include the statement “2 seats have been reserved.”  I think adding the line you suggested is rude. 

    Post # 7
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    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t put that on there. I agree with PPs that the ‘2 seats have been reserved’ is clear enough. If it’s only a question of one or 2 kids possibly showing up then you can talk to those guests individually if they do RSVP with their children. 

    Post # 8
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    I wouldn’t write that – it sounds cheezy and it just is sort of confusing. 

    If you really want to do the additional “no kids” (beyond envelopes and rsvp card stuf), get a reception card.  Write “Adults Only” on it. 

    Post # 9
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just put the words “Adults only please” and that should be enough. Thats what we did

    Post # 10
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    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Personally, I don’t like the wording. It sounds a bit cheeky to me. I say just do the standard address to the parents and put how many seats. If they RSVP with their children then you make a phone call

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I just wrote adult reception to follow.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have 2 small children and I do not find this offensive at all.  I think its cute!

    Post # 12
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    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have 2 small children and I do not find this offensive at all.  I think its cute!

    Post # 13
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    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    sorry about the double post

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We literally put “we request that this event be adults-only” RIGHT ON THE INFO CARD! Etiquette gods be damned, we just don’t care.  I wouldn’t do something cutesy though, but that’s just me.  Just be honest, straight forward and to the point so there’s no wondering or confusion.  Have the event you want, and don’t worry about what other people think.  Easier said than done, eh? 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think the wording is cute! I know everyone has their own opinion on if you should or shouldn’t include something like this in your invitation.  I was totally against it! But my Fiance and Future Father-In-Law said if I didn’t they guaranteed their side just “wouldn’t get it”. So I added “We hope you understand that we have chosen to make our special day adults only. The only children that will be included are those that are part of the wedding party”.  Hopefully it works!  

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