Hopeless romantic

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

You need to take a break from dating, concentrate on yourself, and I know it’s so cliche to say, but go to therapy and figure out why you’re repeating the same cycle with men, the same issues, etc. Only then, with a professional, can you break free from the patterns that cause you so much heartache. Good luck!

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Sounds like quite an emotional rollercoaster…I’m sorry! I understand it’s hard to drop something that you’ve been spending so much of your emotions and time on, especially when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel…but I don’t think this relationship has legs, bee…
Cheating says a lot about a person. It doesn’t matter what lead him to cheat (or how far it went), if he’s giving another girl his affection, it’s because he doesn’t value you. I’m sure he may “love” you, but evidently he doesn’t respect you enough to care about your feelings if he didn’t think about how making out with another girl on her bed might affect you…and he only admitted it after you found out? You may think you have true love with him, but when you find someone who truly loves and respects you, you’ll look back at this and realize how silly it is. You CAN find someone better, and you deserve better. 

I understand how difficult it can be to end it, though. It would be so much easier if you already met the person who will treat you better, just like when you cut off the toxic guy when you met your current B.F…but this relationship will just keep draining you, and the longer you stay in it, the harder it will be to walk away.
It’s wonderful that you’ve helped each other through a lot, but that doesn’t mean you owe anything to him and have to stay. Don’t let him mistreat you just because you’ve been through a lot together…can you see yourself with this man 5 years from now, knowing what you know? Do you think you could fully trust him, especially when another inevitable argument happens? Y’all had a good run together, but you don’t have to keep going if this is making you unhappy now. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

What does the title have to do with this post?  

 

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