- 3 years ago
Background: So, I have been in a very toxic relationship when I graduated highschool, and me and the guy were dating on and off for a few years (3). When we were in the talking stage, I messed up and slept with someone else because I was drunk, so when we decided to try and make things work, he tried to do it too. (eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth). Years go by and we were on and off, couldn’t stay away from one another, but still would mess from people from time to time. But because we were used to each other, we stuck around with one another. When we would mess with other people we were satfised, but then the thought of one another being with someone else destroyed us. Basically if i thought he was messing with someone, when he wasn’t (or i didn’t know) then I would mess with someone, and when I wasn’t messing with anyone because I thought we were gonna try again, he would mess with someone. it was a never ending cycle.
Now: I have known this one guy and have worked with him and he was attracted to me but I never knew. It wasn’t until December of 2016 when he told me he was attracted to me all these years. I FINALLY cut things off with the guy I was with in high school and college on and off for three years. So me and this new guy decided to talk, after getting to know one another, and all the bickerments… We fell in love. but from my past relationship, any time we argued I WOULD TAKE BREAKS. but i never really thought breaks were real, and I would just talk to talk to receive reassurance that he wanted me, but one day, in november (after only dating for like 4 months) we got in a really huge argument because hes got anger issues, and when I said I needed time to think and etc. He got really drunk one night and made out with some girl in her bed, and slept there. nothing more. But he now just told me a few weeks ago when I found out (like 2 weeks ago) We have helped each other in so many ways, and i really thought this was real love. I know I may be young, but Im about to graduate colllege and I don’t have the time to have my time wasted anymore. I love him, and i know he loves me deep down. I don’t know what to do. We went through so much. We talked for 6 months before dating because his parents and grandparents grew up in the times when biracial couples weren’t as popular, so he waas scared to tell his family, but turns out they love me and his family is really into god, and they call me they’re blessing and angel from above because of everything I have helped him through. (school, trying to get a job, death of his brother.. anger) I just don’t know how to make sense of this. I don’t know whether to consider this cheating or what. And before someone says block him and etc , its definitely easier said than done. someone, please help.