- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I would like to say, I couldn’t care less if this person could come now… but I feel bad for my mother who is trying to keep the peace. Long story short…
RSVP went out to Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Mrs. Smith called my mother, last week, to apologize about not being able to come to bridal shower this week. Not once in this phone call did she mention that she would not be able to come because she decided to plan a birthday party for her mother down where she lives the same weekend as my wedding (not my gma since she’s only related by marraige)
Earlier this week my mother gets a phone call from my grandmother saying she’s excited to see my cousin coming home from *insert foreign country where we have a military presence in, but in no way are we in conflict with* and see him/her at the wedding. My mother proceeded to explain that he/she wasn’t invited. Grandmother then said that oh he/she’s coming in place of Mrs. Smith since she will not be coming because of her mother’s birthday party.
So basically we heard all of this information second hand. We assured my grandmother that said cousin is still not invited (not really fair to all of my other cousins that weren’t invited due to size of wedding). My Mom took it with a grain of salt becuase she hadn’t gotten an RSVP back.
Today in the mail… you can guess it… RSVP came back with names filled in as Mr. Smith and Guest. UGHHHH WTF. While I’m happy my cousin is coming home from deployment.. why on earth did they not ask? Why the secrecy?? WHY are they planning on making MY wedding a time for a SURPRISE HOMECOMING.
UGh anyways I’m sure I come off as bridezilla. But seriously why all the f*cking drama… all they had to do was call and see if it was cool if my cousin came. Which we may or may not have been okay with (probably so because they’re cool). Now my mom says that apparently he’s going to refuse coming to the wedding if his son/daughter (unisex to help with anonymity) can’t come. My thoughts.. well if he’s oging to act this way… then I don’t want him there. Unfortunately my Mom still wants to keep peace and this is taking a bigger toll on her.
UPDATE! I’m so proud of my Mom for putting her foot down!!! Mom called Mrs. Smith and to say that she was confused by the invite with the plus one and because Grandma had already said that she wasn’t going to be able to make it. Mrs. Smith tried to lie and say that she was coming to the wedding…. but then admitted she wanted to use the wedding as an excuse for Cousin to see and visit with family. Mom told her “I’m so sorry, but we already gave the seat away. We don’t have the money to invite more than 80 people and with such large families we have a decent sized ‘wait list’ full of people we want to invite after the obligitory invites go out.” She proceeded to say “I really wish you had told us about Cousin coming home becasue we could have figured something out together.” Mrs. Smith’s response. “Oh okay. No problem. I’ll just tell Mr. Smith. Thanks for calling and letting us know” My mom’s final response “So glad we could clear things up, and you and your son/daughter will definitely be missed”