Post # 1
Hello bees. We’re having our reception at either 6 or 6:30PM. The reception venue’s dinner menu is a spot known for A LOT of food, like you can’t possibly be hungry after eating this dinner. I don’t feel h’orderves are a must have and are about $6 per person!! Dinner is already going to be very expensive (about 200 peeps) and I really don’t feel having h’orderves is necessary. How did you other bees handle this? Thanks!!
Post # 2
Are you having a cocktail hour? If you are and you don’t serve food, some guests may be pretty tipsy before dinner. Eating slows down drinking.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Are you having a cocktail hour to take photos with your bridal party/groom? If you are having a cocktail hour before you serve dinner, I would be unhappy if there were no hors d’oeuvres. When people drink they like to eat and it would mean you would be eating dinner at 7 or 7:30 pm which is pretty late to go with no food. On the other hand, if dinner is going to start right away when the reception starts, and there will be no cocktail hour, then I think you can skip the hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 4
I agree with PP! If you’re going right into dinner, then you’re fine. If there’s a cocktail hour, I’d do some hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 5
Agree with everyone else. No cocktail hour? No apps necessary. If you go right in to dinner what does it matter? But if you’re planning on people just standing around and drinking for a while, you definitely need some nibbles.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you’re doing a cocktail hour then you’ll want to serve some food to soak up the alcohol. Maybe just light apps since dinner will be substantial. If no cocktail hour then no need to waste the money on apps.
Post # 7
My venue sounds really similar (it is definitely known for food- amazing food and ridiculous portions). Are there appetizers included in your dinner? Mine had 2 appetizers included with dinner and I’m going to have them served as an appetizer buffet during cocktail hour. I believe my venue also charged 6 dollars a person for an h’orderve course, and it just isn’t necessary when I know we have an insane amount of food. For dinner, since the appetizer course was already served, it will start with salads, and then entrees.
Post # 8
There is a relish tray appetizer served for the beginning of the dinner service then salad, soup and the entrees with sides. That is a really good idea to have the appetizers served as the h’orderves so people don’t get too tipsy if they start drinking immediately upon arriving at the reception venue.
When guests arrive at the reception, alcohol will immediately be available and for the entire duration of the reception, until it’s time to leave, so you have all made good points and it’s much appreciated.
I worry that people that do come on time will mow down on the h’orderves and then the venue will have to throw all of that food away and it will be wasted money for us. 🙁 I really want people to enjoy the full dinner course. Maybe I can ask the venue to put out the relish trays for when people arrive instead of at dinner, since it will be at least something for people to mow on that isn’t too filling but can stave off tipsyness.
Post # 9
I went to a wedding that did this, as a guest it was great. We got to enjoy some appetizers on arrival with a drink, and still had space left to enjoy a gorgeous dinner.
Post # 10
I agree with the first poster; hors d’oeuvres* are useful in making sure the pace of eating is slow – this is a whole evening affair after all! Do it properly and have them!
Post # 11
Teanhoney: I worry that people that do come on time will mow down on the h’orderves and then the venue will have to throw all of that food away and it will be wasted money for us. I really want people to enjoy the full dinner course.
I get what you are saying but as the host, I think it’s only appropriate to give your guests something to munch on if they are going to be drinking and waiting for something to start. Some people will enjoy the full dinner course, some will not. It’s just how it works.