(Closed) Horrible aunt…. only gets worse. (warning, kinda long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I remember your previous thread. She’s a wackjob. I wouldn’t invite her, to be honest. It seems like she has some bigger issues going on that prevent her from acting like a normal, mature adult.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

To be honest, I’d not send her a “Save the Date” or invite her – just leave her off the list. If she apologizes (which sounds very unlikely from everything I’ve read in this thread and your other thread), you can change your mind. However, you don’t need her negativity on your wedding day and I’d honour your dad’s wishes as well.

It’s sad when someone in a small family hurts people and doesn’t own up to their actions but some people’s behaviour is bad enough that it’s not wise to invite them.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My concern is if you don’t invite her, the repercussions will be far worse than inviting her – that she’ll hold this against you forever.

Have a talk to your dad and see if the two of you can agree to invite her. (And her daughter). And it sounds like there’s a good chance she won’t come anyway.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree that you don’t want her at your wedding unless she has some major breakthrough and makes an effort to apologize- and genuinely mean it. I am so so sorry for you and your father. I get extremely emotional whena family member is even a little upset with me, so I can’t imagine how you’re feeling, particularly when you did nothing wrong.

 

Don’t invite her, don’t talk to her. You can’t fix what she’s done. πŸ™

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

@lovelove1028:  Wow, that is long! Not sure what to say other than, sounds like she is nutty and I’m very sorry!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t invite her. You don’t need that on your day, because you KNOW she’ll start some sort of drama. Your sadness at her absence is legit, but it reflects the position she’s earned for herself…and it would be so much less than if she made a scene on that day.

I really do wonder whether she’s going through some sort of mental health related breakdown.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Dear lord! not to be rude but… what a b!tch

Maybe she0s going through menopause or something and she just lost it.

Don’t invite her, she’s not even trying to contact you anyway.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Should you invite her? Depends. Can you live with the fact that it will be the nail in the coffin for your relationship with her if you don’t?

About the Dad / Aunt money issue. Stay out of that mess. It’s not your business, and should in no way impact your relationship with either your father, or your aunt. The less you have to deal with, the happier you will be.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am sorry i would have NOTHING to do with her!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do not invite her. It can have no possible positive outcome.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t invite her.  There is someone in hindsight I definitely wouldn’t have invited to my daughter’s wedding.  You don’t need the drama. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t send her a save the date right now but if things change closer to the wedding you can still send her an invite when the time comes.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I remember your previous thread. You need to let go and not invite her, she’s a complete nutjob.

I’m so very sorry you have to go through this πŸ™

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I remember the old thread. I say the same thing as I did back then. Only invite her if you want to maintain a relationship with her. Don’t invite her if you want to cut ties with her for now. Personally I think I would favor the latter option; I can’t stand abusive relationships. 

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