(Closed) Horrible dreams where I can't remember my fiancé.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
14026 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Hey hun! Those dreams don’t sound like any fun, but please try not to get too upset by them! I think we all go through these phases, though I can’t say I’ve had a bad dream like that with as much regularity.

When I have bizzare dreams like this, especially those that involve my husband somehow, I try not to focus on the dream itself so much as the immense wave of relief I feel when I wake up and see my husband sleeping next to me and remember what my reality really is. The feeling you get when you wake up and realize it was all just a dream is far more telling than the content of your dream, in my opinion.

Post # 4
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78 posts
Worker bee

@MistySoda:  To me it just seems like maybe you’re scared of whatever went wrong in your previous relationship going wrong in your marriage. Or just your relationship changing in general – it’s amazing now, but will it always be? Or will I wake up one day and be beside a man who is no longer my best friend and lover?

 

 

 

I could be WAY off, but that’s what I see in it! And if that’s in any way true, then it’s totally normal! Everyone has fears like that, but being afraid of it is good, because it means you’ll always be on the look out and trying to prevent it.

 

 

 

Of course disregard that if I’m completely wrong, haha. Good luck! Bad dreams like that are awful

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MistySoda:  I’ve had several dreams where my SO and I are dating but not exclusive. I go out with other people and feel horrible about myself because I really just want to be with my SO. It’s weird. He’s always around somehow and knows I’m dating someone else and is sad but wants me to do it if I feel I have to. I know in the dream that I’m hurting him and I feel stupid and ashamed of myself, but still do it. 

Honestly, I see this (and your dream) as our brains’ way of seeing what would happen if we weren’t with the right person. You know, sometimes people have doubts or whatever and they try to work it out in their waking hours and it gets really messy. Maybe for us, those doubts are so small or buried or whatever, they only come out at night and our dreams are us working through that and seeing that we are with the right people. 

If I were you, I would focus on my FI for several minutes before falling asleep. As you drift off, try to keep his face in your mind. Maybe you can “pull” him into the dreams. But either way, I wouldn’t worry about it. Stressing out about it is probably just making it worse. It’s just a dream. It’ll pass.  

Post # 6
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437 posts
Helper bee

@MistySoda:  I have pretty much the exact same dream. Im so happy and in love and then I see the person I’m engaged to and its not my FI. Usually its my ex and then I realise he can never make me happy and I dont love him, so I feel empty and lonely but cant remember FI at all! Its an awful feeling.

Post # 7
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241 posts
Helper bee

Ah i get similar dreams all the tome. My xbf will be in it and i think ugh i hate this guy… Then i see my bf and i dont know its him and im like awww now i like him for some reason! Its soo strange o feel so guilty about it too. But makes me feel a little better that in my dream when i see him my whole mood changes to love.

 

 

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