Post # 1
Posting on behalf of my friend with a crisis, she doesn’t know what to do.
Bride had invited Friend and her boyfriend to her wedding. Friend’s boyfriend was going to be out of town that weekend, so she decided she was going to bring not 1 but 2 friends that Bride had never, ever met. Bride heard about this plan after friend had asked a bridesmaid if that was “okay” and the Bridesmaid or Best Man alerted Bride. Bride phoned Friend and said that was not acceptable, so Friend gave her RSVP for one. Two weeks before the wedding, Friend contacted Bride and said she and her boyfriend had broken up, but she had found a date as a replacement. RSVPs are 4 weeks past due now. Bride obliges. Friend shows up ALONE, misses half the ceremony, leaves right after the dinner, and then complained about the wedding being “full of old people”. The next day, Bride found no card and no gift from Friend.
What would you do?
Post # 3
I am sorry that happened to your friend. There isn’t really much that your friend can do. If it were me, I wouldn’t be friends with the friend anymore. She doesn’t look like a very good friend from what you have written.
Post # 4
Let it go – eventually friend of bride will realize what she did and perhaps offer an appology. She too will more than likely be married some day and understand the impact those things have. Say nothing, be gracious she showed up for what she did.
Post # 5
There’s not really anything your friend can do at this point. It sounds like her “friend” has probably never been closely involved in planning a wedding, and will no doubt understand her wrongdoings when she gets married someday. If your friend is interested in saving the friendship, however, she should just wait for the “friend” to approach her…confrontation would most likely only exacerbate the situation.
Post # 6
Agreed with what others are saying…it’s frustrating and the friend was incredibly inconsiderate, but there’s nothing to do about it except let it go and focus on all the good memories from the wedding.
Post # 7
Your friend can drop that girl as a friend, cut all losses and move on.
That girl’s behavior is horrible, but unfortunately, I mean, what can ya do? Call her up and tell her how awful she is? That likely will just result in an unnecessary fight.
Just know that this girl (not your friend) ruined the relationship, and now your friend can find comfort in the fact that this girl is out of her life.