Post # 1
oh my god. I really need to vent. I asked my three best friends from childhood to be my bridesmaids and they immediately booked their preferred makeup artist to do their makeup. Fine.
i figured I would use her as well. So I just went for a trial and I am so scarred I can’t wven sleep. It is 1 AM and I am just so horrified. My makeup was cakey, and I looked like a stripper. My grandfather saw me and said “that’s not my granddaughter!” My mother said I look like, if I had an evil twin. I am really unhappy with it but I didn’t want to be rude to her or hurt her feelings. My bridesmaids and I are all supposed to get ready together, so how do I face this? I never ever wear makeup so this harsh heavy look was very shocking to me.
Do so I politely tell her I just want things toned down, and still use he? I am honestly so grossed out by her work that I have zero trust in her. Can I use a new person and just get ready separately? Or, Can I just have her do my makeup and then if I don’t like it, just have her fix it? I will have my bride tribe with me to help!
Thank you and im
aorry for any venting. I am just so upset!
Post # 2
Ok I’d say don’t lose your mind just yet. I think there’s a couple options like explaining what you didn’t like and trying again with specifics also inspiration pics and if she does it terribly again I’d move on (had you seen her portfolio before?) why are they using her like she’s been used by someone in that group before?
Next option do a different trial with someone else. Remember you want it to last through the entire event and pictures.
can you post a picture of it?
Post # 3
don’t stress bee. It’s your wedding you can do what you want.
You could either get your own MUA and all get ready together or you could trial go back to her with constructive feedback and have another trial and hope she tones it down.
Either way don’t worry you will sort it. You don’t all have to use the same person.
Post # 4
This seems like a bit of an overreaction.
This is business. If you don’t or like the product/service, then your options are to work with the individual providing the product or service to modify it until you find it satisfactory or find the product/service elsewhere. This is not the big deal you are making it out to be. Did you try on more than one dress? More than one pair of shoes? Look at more than one floral arrangement? More than one venue? More than one caterer? Have you ever purchased one thing from somewhere, seen something you like better at the next store, and then go back and return the first item? This isn’t any different.
So schedule a second trial and be very clear and articulate about what you want and what you would like changed from the first trial. If you don’t think you are capable of expressing your wants to her to change how she did your makeup or that she isn’t capable of doing what you want, then book someone else. It is business. If everyone else likes her, they are free to use her. You aren’t required to.
Post # 5
Of course you don’t have to use the same makeup artist or “get ready” together. This so called tradition really isn’t one, and is mostly about wanting the Pinterest perfect photo op.
Your options are to find someone you like and offer that as an alternative to the already booked person, find your own person and meet up afterwards for just hair, or to get dressed, or work with their person and tell her what you want to change and tone down.
Don’t forget, however, that to avoid looking washed out in photos it is pretty common for the MUA to have ro go a little heavier than you are used to. Since you aren’t used to wearing anything, it’s not so surprising you might feel this way. It’s hard to tell without photos, but ultimately, all that counts is that you are comfortable and happy.
Post # 6
I agree that this seems like a serious exaggeration.
Bridal makeup is usually heavier than every day makeup because it needs to last literally all day and be picked up in photos. I think the fact that you dont typically wear makeup is clouding your overall judgement.
Do you have a photo of your trial? I would assume that if three other people prefer this makeup artist that she really isn’t that bad. That being said, they can use her for their makeup but you dont have to if you really hate her work that much.
Post # 7
If you really hate it that much, I would get your own MUA, find one that does what you want.
It’s your wedding day and there is absolutely no shame in having a different MUA than your BM’s, if that’s your prefence. It would be helpful to have a photo of this, bridal makeup is a lot heavier than every day.
Post # 8
Sorry but LOL at your description 😂 Definitely don’t book her. Just be honest and say it wasn’t your style, and find someone else.
Post # 9
If you don’t normally wear makeup, I can see how you would feel that way. I’m not jumping right to “find another MUA!” because it might not have been *that* bad, it just seemed like it.
Wedding MU is usually a bit heavier because it photographs better. Did you take pictures of yourself? Did you show her pictures of what you were looking for? Did you note how long it wore for? Did it still look good (I mean, did it look the same as the start lol) hours later?
If you think its salvageable I would try another trial. You can let her know you thought it was too heavy and want to try something lighter and more natural.
One of my BMs never wears makeupand didn’t love her makeup from the artist on the day of, but when we looked through pics the next day and later got our pro pics back she was blown away. They did airbrush foundation on her, and you could still see her freckles through it. It feels weird if you arent used to it lol.
Post # 10
I also HATE getting makeup done. I wear barely any makeup on a regular basis, like just some eyeliner and a little eyeshadow most days (sometimes I’ve forgotten and people say they can’t even tell). Anyway, the first time I had my makeup professionally done was for my high school prom and I hated it! I wanted to immediately wipe it all off but I’d already paid so much money for it. My sister has a bunch of friends who are make-up artists though, and they tell me that they are doing what looks good on camera, which is I guess a bit heavier than what I think looks good in person. But I have been able to compromise with them by saying I want it really really light, and it’ll turn out still slightly heavier than I prefer but they’re right, it does look good in pictures.
Post # 11
Well, no. Bridal make up for someone who doesn’t wear a lot of make up does not have to be heavy. Good classic make up does not look heavy, it accentuates your natural beauty.
There is a trend for heavy make up right now, which is fine if that’s your thing. But if it’s not, if you want a more classical bridal look, it is possible.
Ask to see the MUA’s pics of other more natural, fresh looks. If she can do it, she will have these images. If she doesn’t have them, simply go in a different direction and hire your own person. Do not rely on your “bride tribe” if they like this person’s work. Everyone’s personal aesthetic is different.
I specialized in make up for film, tv and print (on camera, obviously), which most of the time – except when the story called for character make up- was about making talent look vibrant, healthy, aspirational, and attractive without looking done. It does not have to look heavy, and should not look heavy. It is a whole thing, plenty of people do it. This is the look used in most bridal adverts as well. Sure, up close any make up will appear, but you should feel comfortable in your bridal look.
Knowing your background in fashion, I assume you are familiar with the various looks and understand the basics of how to convey a vision. Did you show her inspo pics?
Post # 12
Did you tell her you wanted a natural look? From your posting history, it seems you have trouble communicating effectively with vendors.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
Can you please post a picture so we can be objective?
Post # 14
Don’t book her!
I also had a bad experience with my makeup trial. It was really disappointing and made me feel like crap to pay a professional so much only to hate how she made me look. I ultimately decided not to keep paying for makeup trials and just to do it myself, but I’m someone who does wear makeup daily and feels comfortable doing my own makeup. I’m also picky about colors and styles so I figured that with some trial and error, I will be able to choose exactly what I like rather than hoping a MUA gets it right.
In your situation, I’d start with going to a Sephora/Ulta/Mac/a department store makeup counter and getting a makeover or two to test what looks you like and feel comfortable with and what colors work for you. Ultimately, YOU have to wear the makeup and you should like it and feel comfortable in it. If you do decide to try another MUA, then knowing what you like will be helpful. And if you decide to do it yourself, it will be essential.
Post # 15
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
I would find another MUA. My first trial was done in a basement with minimal lighting, and it looked decent so I ended up booking the lady. When I went home and looked at myself in natural light, and took pictures of myself with flash/without/in daylight.. I was horrified. I didn’t look like myself at all. I called the lady and canceled immediately. I found a reputable MUA and booked a trial with her, told her my concerns and stressed that I wanted to wear makeup for my wedding, but I still wanted to look like myself. She did an amazing job, and although you can tell I’m wearing makeup in my photos, it looked natural and enhanced my features instead of overpowering them.