- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
elisef : sweet bee, these are withdrawal feelings. our minds create “bond drugs” that are pretty much as strong as opium, when we bond to someone and spend a lot of our lives with them.
The withdrawal symptoms are STRONG – they’ll feel like feelings of panic, abandonment, helplessness, and maybe even sick feeling in the body.
this is why some people will even stay with someone very abusive- the other person who is withholding love, then giving little glimpses of kindness at times, becomes like a drug dealer to the one who cant’ break away.
Be strong, bee. come here and write for support if you need, but only you can take the first step away, then the next one.
Remember it’s brain-chemicals, and that in time those things will fade if you are strong, and you focus on YOU. take care of yourself, bubble baths, massages, do things you love, feed yourself with gazing at beauty- whatever it is that nurtures YOU,
and journal the things that were not good in this man’s treatment of you.
you have a child or children to fight for – your future children, and your future marriage.
Hold on to that.
what I did to escape an abusive relationship was this: I sat on my meditation cushion, and I just focused on feeling what it would feel like when I was with my love, the future man who would care for me and protect me- and honor me by treating me with kindness.
when the good feelings of that finally flooded my body, I would just breathe in it for a while. (of course my abusive ex grew suspcious because i was happy! yikes.)
give yourself this, or anything that helps. Some women write love letters to themselves.
you can walk away, and one day you’ll be so thankful you were brave.