Post # 1
Ok so my fiance and I are totally not traditional people. The idea of have a wedding reception that is “traditional” just doesn’t fit us. We met while working at a movie theater, and both really love the horror genre. Would it be too much to have a horror themed reception?
I was thinking anything too crazy. Maybe like each table devoted to a different horror movie star; like one table for Freddy Krugar, one for Jason, etc etc. I was thinking, also, that during dinner we could play the instramental theme songs from different classics, and then switch it to “Thriller” and “The Monster Mash” after dinner.
We discussed having the place decked out more like a movie set from a horror movie then a haunted house. I refuse to have rubber bats and plastic skeletons. But maybe black and red fabrics, a few smoke machines, black centerpieces maybe made out of some of the halloween decorations that aren’t so “halloween”.
We have also discussed asking everyone to dress up. If we did, we would request everyone comes to the reception in costumes, or we could provide some masks and or props.
Obviously this is still in the planning stages, and I haven’t worked out all the details. What do you bees think? Is this too much?
Post # 3
I think it might be a struggle to keep it elegant… sorry I don’t mean to offend you. If your guests are really into horror theme it would be good but could possibly look like a halloween party when you look back at the photos.
Post # 4
If thats what you guys like i say go for it!
Post # 5
Although this sounds like it would be an awesome party, I agree with Miss Geek’s statement about looking back at the pictures and it looking like a Halloween party.
What if you toned it down on the horror aspect and focused more on the movie theater part? You could still include a “horror” table, but also a “comedy”, “action”, “romance”, etc. tables.
Also, people could still dress up! Maybe instead of asking them to dress as horror movie characters you could have them dress as “red carpet movie stars”. I mean, sure, you might have more than one person dress up as Marilyn Monroe, but it’s a little more formal than a zombie costume with blood everywhere. 😉
However, whatever you decide, I’m sure it’ll be fantastic. 🙂
Post # 6
How would your guests feel about this? I do subscribe to the “it’s your day, do what you want” rhetoric but only in small doses. Ultimately, you are hosting them. If they would enthusiastically participate, great; if the majority of your guests would not (or worse, seem awkward), I would skip it. And I agree about providing masks or something simple for those who do not mind the theme but do not choose to dress up. They might find later that they wish they had. But definitely do not force it on people. And I do think that to avoid it looking like a holiday mixer, keep the horror decorations toned down. I think what you suggest sounds good — you already said you’re staying away from the haunted house look! Also, if you do use horror movies as your table themes, I would avoid putting a picture on the table name/number card. Some people just don’t like horror movies or want to look at that while they dine!
Post # 7
It’s your wedding so I think you should use whatever theme you and your FI like! Everything you described re: the table names and smoke machines sounds fun. My only hesitation is the bit about black centerpieces… is there any way I can convince you to go for blood red centerpieces instead???? Also, I would not ask your guests to dress up because I think a lot of people (esp older folks) would be turned off and decline your invitation. 🙁 The props you mentioned would make a super fun photo booth!!!
Post # 8
Honestly? If I was one of your guests I would just think that it was weird. I also might be a little offended-thinking that you were choosing to mock weddings in general. If you aren’t traditional people and don’t want a traditional wedding, I think would be better to just go to dinner with your family after a small ceremony. Or just have a casual barbecue. There are lots of ways to do weddings now that aren’t formal weddings in hotel ballrooms.
Post # 9
I love the idea of being a free spirited person, and not conforming to something that doesnt appeal directly to you.. But in the sense of your wedding you need to actually imagine yourself in 20-30 years, an older more mature version of you, and decide whether or not you want to look through your wedding album or show it to your kids and grandkids and have to constantly explain or paint the picture of what was going on with your wedding. And also not be able to look back and remember people for what they were/are–. At the end of the day a marriage is exactly that– a marriage of your young and single self with a new and more mature adult. If you do this, I would definatly say avoid asking your guests to dress up- keep the older people in mind- they are coming to celebrate with and For you- they are probably going to bring gifts- do you think it is fair to ask them to go out of their way and to go through the stress of buying and putting on a costume? If you have a very free-spirited family I would say than-yah it may be fine, but also take into consideration the people you are inviting and always balance..
Post # 10
If you were my friend and I KNEW you were very unconventional, I wouldn’t be surprised or taken back. I think this borders more on then “fun” and laid back side of weddings because it sounds more laid back, but I think with some careful planning it can be done very nicely! Black roses or calla lillies as centerpieces.
Honestly, since you aren’t hanging up vampires, you know, Vegas has a few clubs that pop into my head. More like dark, dungeon type theme with dark red, black, etc. I don’t want to say “gothic” but almost. You could do a goth chic maybe? It seems like a very night clubby type theme to go with and could be pretty cool!
As far as asking everyone to dress up, I don’t know how that’d fly. As a guest, i’d probably grumble a little because wearing a costume is a big pain to put together. You could always do a fancy masquerade style in lieu of costumes. Still “costumey” but more like, elegant ballroom style.
Post # 11
If you were doing it on Halloween, I would say go for it. But honestly, as a guest I would be confused to be at a wedding like this in May. I think you could probably do a more “elegant Gothic” type of wedding, but once you get into costumes and horror movies… well it’s a little like having a winter wonderland themed wedding in July.
Post # 12
I think it’s great! Plus, I’m sure your friends know what your style is and wouldn’t be too surprised by the reception. I know I would have a lot of fun if I was invited to a wedding like that.
As long as you stay away from kitsch halloween decorations you will be in good shape!
Post # 13
Ok so the main consensus I’m getting is no costumes. We can easily nix that with no sweat, and now that I do think about it, that would be a little much.
ejs4y8 – I really like the goth club look you talked about.
Farfromachildbride – I’m not set on the black centerpieces, and may nix a monoton center piece altogether. I really like the idea of something blood red. IT’s still dark, but glamourous.
Greeleafmountain – Ya we were thinking around october. I only put the May think on weddingbee because we haven’t set a date and that one is out anniversary.
I think I could pull this off without going to crazy with the scarey decor. I really want something that hints at horror without going all out cheesy. If anyone has any more ideas, or suggestions, or even discouragement this is really helping me.
Post # 14
I like the idea as I’m pretty unconventional too, but I think it would work better if you focused more on a gothic theme than a horror one. That way you still get the “dark” aspect of it without coming across like a Universal Studios theme park.
Check out Offbeat Bride for inspiration, I know there’s been a bunch of people on there that have had goth and darker weddings that were really beautiful.
Post # 15
Maybe I’m a fuddy duddy, but I’m really not a fan of highly themed weddings, to the point that they seem like a kid’s birthday party. I think your idea is veering into that territory.
I totally get the idea about not wanting a traditional reception. But my immediate thought is that there are so many ways to have a non-traditional reception that still has a lot more to do with a life long commitment to another person than embracing a very unrelated theme does. Have you considered non-traditional locations? Renting an old movie theatre immediately comes to my mind. Have you considered a non-traditional style? I’ve loved picnic, barbeque, and tapas receptions. Have you thought about just chucking the elements of traditional weddings you don’t like?
I guess what I’m saying is, maybe consider doing something actually different, not just something that looks different.
Post # 16
Your idea is cool, but it really sounds like a Halloween party. And that’s fine if that is what you guys like. You could even get married on Halloween!
I think if you are very clear on the invitation that your event is an exchange of vows, followed by more of a horror themed “costume party” than a “wedding” it would be ok. Just make sure your guests know what to expect and don’t think they are attending a wedding with the white dress, cake and flowers, etc.
If you think it should have more of a “wedding” feel, I’d agree with the poster that suggested making it a movie theme- with comedy, action and romance genres incorporated.
I think it is hard to do a horror themed wedding (or a horror themed birthday party, or anything else) without it seeming like a Halloween party.