Post # 1
My coordinator believes that passed hors d’oeuvres should not be skipped during the cocktail hour. I am satisfied with stationary ones as I’m having trouble justifying the cost.
My reception will be a backyard pig roast, pretty casual atmosphere. There will be approx 35-40mins from the time the ceremony ends to the time dinner is served. I dont really feel like they are necessary since dinner will be served so quickly.
Please tell me if I am simply being cheap. You won’t hurt my feelings.
Post # 3
As long as there are enough to go around, and you set it up in a way that they don’t have to “stand in line” to grab a couple of apps (i.e., multiple stations or at least long double-sided tables), I see no reason why you need to pass them.
Post # 4
Seriously? I don’t care how I get them — if they’re there, I’ll eat them, whether they’re passed or not! : D Plus, since your wedding is casual, it might be weird if there were black-tie-dressed waiters passing around hors d’oeuvres, LOL.
Post # 5
I’m not providing any hors d’oeuvres at all….
Post # 6
Food is food. Don’t really care if I have to go get it or it comes to me 🙂
Post # 7
As an above poster stated, food is food. Having them passed around is above and beyond what is expected of you as a hostess IMO. 🙂
Post # 9
I can’t imagine guests being offended or even noticing if you have the food sitting on a table v. passed around on trays, especially in a more casual atmosphere. It’s your day, not your planner’s so I’d tell her you get the final say.
Post # 10
I’m doing a few butler passed hors d’oeuvres just for the simple reason that I will doubtfully ever have any other occasion to do such a fun thing! Not a necessity-just something special.
Post # 11
My mother insists on passed hor d’ourves so since my parents are paying, we’re doing it. While I do like passed, it’s not a necessity for me.
If you don’t want to do passed hor d’ourves, then don’t. I guarantee no-one will care as long as they are being fed.
Post # 12
Can someone explain what the difference is, I feel completely cluseless now? Hors d’oeuvres that are stationary or hors d’oeuvres that are passed are still hors d’oeuvres right? Food is still food whether it sits still or gets passed around? Or am I completely misunderstanding this???
And if you’ve only got 45 minutes between end of ceremony and dinner time you don’t need to feed your guests in between, a little something like chips or nuts might be nice but not necessary.
Post # 13
I am with CaitMarae – we are having them but they are not necessary.
Post # 14
As long as there’s something, I don’t think it matters if they’re sitting there or getting passed around.
Post # 15
You might want to take into consideration the physical layout of your wedding. There have been many weddings where I physically could not get near the food table during the cocktail hour due to crowds. We are choosing to do passed hors d’oeuvres w/less food overall during cocktail hour in order to accommodate the logistical side of reception location.
Food is food and the level of “poshness” you want to go for is entirely up to you. If you can do nicer food as a buffet your guests might really like that.
I’ve noticed from catering days in college that sometimes during a passed hors d’oeuvres situation the wait staff approached guests with a not-so-appetizing hors d’oeuvres and then the staff is stuck with a full plate. Awkward…………Guests can be really selective so buffets are better sometimes.