(Closed) hors d’oeuvres during “cocktail hour”

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: Are passed hors d'oeuvres a must?
    No - Stationary hors d'oeuvres are sufficient : (55 votes)
    86 %
    Yes - It's a wedding! Of course you need to provide for your guests!! : (9 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    As long as there are enough to go around, and you set it up in a way that they don’t have to “stand in line” to grab a couple of apps (i.e., multiple stations or at least long double-sided tables), I see no reason why you need to pass them.

    Post # 4
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Seriously? I don’t care how I get them — if they’re there, I’ll eat them, whether they’re passed or not! : D Plus, since your wedding is casual, it might be weird if there were black-tie-dressed waiters passing around hors d’oeuvres, LOL.

    Post # 5
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m not providing any hors d’oeuvres at all….

    Post # 6
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    Food is food. Don’t really care if I have to go get it or it comes to me 🙂

    Post # 7
    841 posts
    Busy bee

    As an above poster stated, food is food. Having them passed around is above and beyond what is expected of you as a hostess IMO. 🙂

    Post # 8
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I say go Stationary!!

    Post # 9
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I can’t imagine guests being offended or even noticing if you have the food sitting on a table v. passed around on trays, especially in a more casual atmosphere.  It’s your day, not your planner’s so I’d tell her you get the final say.

    Post # 10
    861 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m doing a few butler passed hors d’oeuvres just for the simple reason that I will doubtfully ever have any other occasion to do such a fun thing!  Not a necessity-just something special.

    Post # 11
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My mother insists on passed hor d’ourves so since my parents are paying, we’re doing it. While I do like passed, it’s not a necessity for me. 

    If you don’t want to do passed hor d’ourves, then don’t. I guarantee no-one will care as long as they are being fed. 

    Post # 12
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Can someone explain what the difference is, I feel completely cluseless now? Hors d’oeuvres that are stationary or hors d’oeuvres that are passed are still hors d’oeuvres right? Food is still food whether it sits still or gets passed around? Or am I completely misunderstanding this???

    And if you’ve only got 45 minutes between end of ceremony and dinner time you don’t need to feed your guests in between, a little something like chips or nuts might be nice but not necessary.

    Post # 13
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am with CaitMarae – we are having them but they are not necessary.

    Post # 14
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    As long as there’s something, I don’t think it matters if they’re sitting there or getting passed around.

    Post # 15
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    You might want to take into consideration the physical layout of your wedding. There have been many weddings where I physically could not get near the food table during the cocktail hour due to crowds. We are choosing to do passed hors d’oeuvres w/less food overall during cocktail hour in order to accommodate the logistical side of reception location.

    Food is food and the level of “poshness” you want to go for is entirely up to you. If you can do nicer food as a buffet your guests might really like that.

    I’ve noticed from catering days in college that sometimes during a passed hors d’oeuvres situation the wait staff approached guests with a not-so-appetizing hors d’oeuvres and then the staff is stuck with a full plate. Awkward…………Guests can be really selective so buffets are better sometimes.  

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