Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2015 - Country Club
Looking for some input, if possible. During our cocktail hour-and-a-half we are (of course) having appetizers for the guests. The country club can either have them be passed by staff or we can have stations. There is no price difference between the two. I read that passed appetizers are better for guests with mobility issues and allows people to mingle better. But is it too “snooty” (fiance’s reaction)? We are having a ’20s-’40s inspired vintage wedding (not burlap and lace vintage, more like a warm, copper-colored, dark wood type vintage). The venue holds 250 max and we’re having about 130 guests to give you a sense of space. Input greatly appreciated! 🙂
Post # 2
I’d do both. Sometimes the lines get backed-up, around stations. With passed, you have no guantee that every guests will be offered every passed hors d’oeuvres.
For example, my family went to a wedding last summer that offered a 1/2 hour for cocktails. They didn’t have any food on tables/stations. They only had 3 passed hors d’oeuvres. My family was only offered 1 of those 3 – pork sliders, and I don’t eat them and my daughter doesn’t like them. By the time we got to sit down, we were ready to chew on our napkins.
Post # 3
Can you do a combination? We had both passed and stationary and I found that worked the best. If not, I vote for stationary, then the guests know where the snacks are and can pick what they want/how much they want at once. As for the people with mobility issues people will grab their snacks for them. Like, when I’m at a buffet type place I always grab gramma some munchies, it works out just fine.
Post # 4
If you can do both, I would. We had two stations with a variety of items and then more composed hors d’oeuvres were passed. I think both are pretty standard at a wedding and neither looks snooty at all…they’re both standards in having a caterered event.
Post # 5
My friend just got married a few months ago, and did both, it was nice because the line did get a little backed up at the station.
I am only doing the station, but because our ceremony and reception will be at the same venue, I hope that the station will not get too backed up. The way I figure it, we are letting everyone out of the ceremony per row so we can thank everyone, so that will help with the congestion.
Post # 6
Ideally you’d want a combination of both. I’ve been to parties with only passed appetizers and it was usually very frustrating. I’d either miss the servers going by or they’d run out before they got to me. If you have to choose one or the other I think stations is the better option.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider
my baby brother is wheelchair bound, and often gets crowded out when there’s a line. I’m mobile, but dislike the way I feel rushed to grab food when stations are set up. for me, passed wins out (if you can’t have both, like PP have said).
as for “snooty”. . .you’re having a vintage wedding in a country club. I don’t think passed appys are snooty (nor vintage weddings, nor country clubs), but if there’s a time and place for a little bit of snootiness, you’ve got it! 😉
EDIT: FWIW, I’m doing passed appys during cocktail hour, and then having stations for dinner.
Post # 8
I’ve never thought of passed canapes as being snobby lol; so that’s a new one!
We had passed canapes at ours; the drinks reception was fairly spread out over two rooms (live music in one; the other was quieter with more seating), and for us this made more sense. I also do believe it encourages mingling more; with a station, there can be a tendency for people to kind of just hang about next to it, or spend time queuing, which IMO is a bit of an atmosphere killer.
If the staff are good, then ensuring that everyone is offered the full selection should not be an issue; all our guests were offered all the canapes on offer, and the staff also ascertained who are coeliac and pescatarian guests were and made sure they were offered separate platters. It was all very smooth.
As PPs said you could do both, but I personally would lean towards passed.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
i always vote for stations. while having passed snacks adds a level of formality and allows people to continue their conversations in place, myself and my dad (we’ve vented about this at several parties) hate feeling like we have to chase down a server for food if we continue to get skipped while they’re walking around.
at least stationary food gives people the opportunity to go back for a bit more if they’re really hungry and can make multiple trips if they need to grab food for others
Post # 10
I prefer passed. I think people socialize more because they arent focused on/in line for food. And the multistation cocktail hour always stuffs people before dinner! (Or maybe thats just me, no control around bite sized yummies haha). its too much.
Post # 11
We are having stations. Every wedding I have been to has had passed and its like everyone is hunting down the servers for food. I would much rather know exactly where the food will be. People can mingle while they are in line getting drinks and food!
Post # 12
I personally prefer passed, I feel like it’s a little nicer. Perhaps you could do a combination? Have some stations and have some passed?
Post # 13
I perfer a combo — like a cheese station but then passed hot canapes…. that way you can always grab something if you are in a rush (ie bridal party and have to be outside for pics) but its fun being served cute and fancy little foods
Post # 14
I’m finding it interesting that people are suggesting both because when I suggested this to my caterer, she basically vetoed it and said I should really do one or the other. To be honest, I don’t remember her reason, so I’m going to revisit the issue, since so many of you thing the combo works best (which is what I initally thought, too).
Post # 15
I would also do both, since both have benefits and drawbacks. With stations you have to interrupt conversations to go and get food (though this could be welcome, depending on who you’re talking to) and with passed you may not get to sample things that you want to try. The last reception I went to did it with both and I have to say it was really great. The stations gave us an opportunity to scout out the room and the passed appetizers allowed us to have great conversations while still being fed.
I don’t think passed appetizers are snooty, but if you can do a combo that’s what I would vote for!