Post # 1
I have lately been hearing a lot of people choosing to do home birth with their second child because they have had terrible experiences with hospital birth for their first child. Has anyone on here had both experiences? I have no children at the moment but the thought of being able to be at home during the birthing process just seems like it would be so much more relaxing.. idk though I would like to hear other people’s experiences.
Post # 3
I am choosing to have my baby (first one!) at the hospital, but the hospital I work for happens to have a birthing center. I get to establish a relationship with a midwife, become comfortable with her, tour the center, and make my ‘best case scenario’ wishes very clear. I like being able to have a say in how my birth happens, but I also like the safety net of having the birthing center IN the hospital should something go wrong. For me, it’s like the best of both worlds.
Post # 4
That would be great but there are very few hospitals like that in Ohio, if any…
One thing I should probably note is that my sister is a nurse and my mom is a respiratory therapist so they would both be there with a midwife but they are pretty against it. They think home births are “weird”. lol But I just think it would be so amazing to be at your own home and not in a strange environment with a bunch of people you dont know… idk.
Post # 5
@LLRininger: Hi! I am thinking about a home birth. I live 100 yards from the best maternity hospital in my city so if there was distress I know I could get to help very quickly. Even if I do have a hospital bith I plan on labouring at home as much as possible. I don’t want to spend a long time in hospital, if it can be avoided 🙂
Post # 6
@LLRininger: Home birth sounds nice until something goes wrong. I just wouldn’t risk it. I despise hospitals, but I think for the safety of me and baby, hospital is the way to go. Way less complications happen in hospitals than at home. Even if you’ve had a kid before something could go wrong the second, third, forth time around.
Post # 7
@DaneLady: That is awesome! I wish we had something like that where I live, it would absolutely be the best of both worlds.
I would be a bit nervous to give birth at home with my first because you don’t know yet how your body responds to birth. I could see it more if I had given birth a time or two before and they went well and there were no problems. I know someone who had her first three babies in a hospital then had her fourth in a tub in a birth center and I think she felt comfortable doing that because she knew how the others had gone and knew her body well enough to feel confident in being away from a hospital setting.
Post # 8
Personally I wouldn’t risk doing a home birth. At a hospital you have a medical team there ready if there are any complications.
Post # 9
A friend of mine recently planned on giving birth at home in a pool. All was going well until the baby was distressed and then we were in a rush trying to find a hospital with room, packing a bag, etc. In the end she ended up having a c-section after 24 hours of labour.
I am 100% planning on going to a hospital. I am too worried about things going wrong, plus I like drugs! 🙂
Post # 10
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All I can think is who is going to clean up the mess if you give birth at home? My FH would not be comfortable with it at all. I don’t think he would want to sleep in the same bed I gave birth in since he doesn’t like the thought of birth at all.
I do like the idea of a birth center though but since my dad and I were both very sick (and I was premature, had to wear doll clothes for the first few months) I would worry about something going wrong and not being able to get to the hospital fast enough.
But to each her own and if you think you have the proper support system and you live close enough to a hospital for just in case something goes wrong, I say do it.
Post # 11
While I agree that it would probably be nice to be in the “known” environment of one’s home, I could never risk mine or my baby’s safety by not having immeadiate access to a hospital and its resourses. Even the most low-risk pregnancies and births can have things go wrong.
Just read some of the recaps of Bees on this board who had uncontrollable bleeding and other major unexpected complications after their hospital births.
Here is the first one that came to my mind (her Darling Husband thought he was going to lose her): http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jacksons-birth-story-long
Or this one who separated her pelvis: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/briars-birth-story-finally-the-aftermath-and-breastfeeding-woes
Post # 12
I would love an in the middle option, like a birthing center. Here we only have the option of an at home birth, or a hospital with a ridiculously high c-section rate. I plan on laboring at home as long as possible, and would really like a low intervention/no intervention birth as long as it is healthy for me and the baby. I will also have a doula to help advocate for me and support me and my husband.
Post # 13
Hum, just to comment again. I live in the UK. Even if I were in hospital I would probably not see an actual doctor through the whole labour unless there were a complication.
Meaning that most care is midwife led care. If I was to home birth it would be a midwife from the hospital giving me one on one care in my home. I would therefore be more monitored than if I were in a hospital where there is a team of midwife looking after all the women and hence only checking on you now and then, not constantly.
The midwife that would look after me at home would one that works at the hospital. Given that it is under a minute away from here I am pretty sure that the time to get me there and seen by a consultant would be the same as if I were in the hospital (having to get a midwife to see me, then get them to get the doctor etc).
As I said I am not sure what I will do (and I can decide at any point in my pregnancy), but the judgement here that home birth is automatically “unsafe” is simply not true.
Post # 14
@ellebeerob: Good point, my local hosptial also has a birthing centre on the delivery ward that I am also considering. I am astonished my the level of intervention in US hospitals. The birthing culture is very different.
Post # 15
These are all good points and basically what my sister and mom said. I just keep hearing about doctors cutting when they’ve been asked not to, nurses forcing constant monitoring rather than allowing you to walk around and just checking periodically… idk. I love my OB and I am sure she would do her best to keep things to my wishes but I just feel like in a hospital you have very little control over the situation.
Post # 16
I can offer you some perspective on this :). My SO was born at home. His parents (who are now divorced) have two very different takes on it.
His father says it was the worst, most stressful thing and a bad decision. The cord was wrapped around his neck 3 times and he didnt breathe for a while after birth. Future Father-In-Law says that was proof they should have gone to the hospital instead, because he believes that they risked brain damage by having their son at home where a hospital would have definitely known the best way to handle this.
His mother says it was the best decision that she could have made. The cord was wrapped around his neck 3 times and the midwife knew from listening with a stethoscope. So she unwrapped it before he exited and didn’t cut it until she knew he was breathing on his own. Future Mother-In-Law says that this is proof that a home birth was the right choice, because she believes that there would have been a higher chance of brain damage in a hospital due to cutting the cord when he still needed the oxygen.
So as you can see, different people get different things out of home birth.
ETA: SO is 1 of 4 children and the youngest, the other 3 were born in hospitals.