Post # 16
BriansBride : I am so sorry to hear your sister is so sick? It is so lovely you want to help, is she well enough to go in a wheelchair around the grounds? I know an engagement in hospital isn’t ideal but nor is her condition, some hospitals have lovely grounds, some even have ponds? Maybe he could take her for some fresh air and do it there?
Post # 17
FutureDrAtkins : I feel like that would be way too much stress for even just a few seconds…bad scans are traumatic…would be a cute idea for someone evaluating a scan ( like a tech or dr) but not an actual patient.
Post # 18
BriansBride : in some hospitals they have a chapel which can be a really pretty space- or nice outdoor areas you can decorate with candles ect. I would talk to the nurses/staff and see what they think!
I am really sorry your sister is going through this, cancer is the worst.
Post # 19
FutureDrAtkins : brilliant! haha
I’m not sure if this would be super illegal BUT I was thinking he could dress up as a nurse or doctor or something, mask on so she doesn’t know right away, and come up with some cheesy medical-type jargon that could lead into a proposal… “So Ms. Blah Blah, your labs show you are missing something from your left hand..” idk, then mask off, down on one knee. I’d love something silly like that.
Post # 20
There is a nice garden area at our local hospital. If shes cleared for going out for a bit maybe in the garden (they’re usually attached to a door in the hospital and wheelchair accessible).
Im sorry to hear about your sister.
Post # 21
A lot of hospitals have pretty little outside areas that are used to encourage patients to get outside if they’re able, or for employee breaks. You could ask the nurses if they have an outdoor area where sister’s bf could hang some lights and set up for a proposal. I work in health care, and I imagine most nurses would be open to helping in whatever way they can to make this special.
Post # 22
Definitely get the hospital staff involved- in addition to the nurses ask to speak with the unit social worker. While the nurses change from shift to shift and even doctors rotate weekly/bi-weekly the social worker will maintain constant and will be a great resource to coordinate and plan the proposal over time. You’d be surprised what we can arrange for patients in the hospital!
Of course your sister’s condition and current functionality (is she eating, can she get out of bed, etc.) will play a role in what can be done but in my experience (as a hospital employee) we will go above and beyond for an opportunity to give our patients- especially long-term ones- a special and happy experience. I remember one time recently when we arranged a special steak dinner for a transplant patient and his wife’s 30th anniversary it was a beautiful moment for the patient, his family, and all of the staff.
Like everyone has said you are an amazing sister! I am so sorry for what your siser and your family are going through and wish you all the best of luck!
Post # 23
It’s possible someone on the hospital staff might have some ideas. I’m sure they’ve had this scenario arise before. I’m not sure who would be a good point of contact — is there someone who is assigned to your sister’s case who is a social worker or counselor or something similar?
The big challenge is going to be ensuring the proposal doesn’t do anything to risk her health or the health of any other patients on the ward. It would be a good idea to run the plan by the charge nurse or someone to ensure you’re not going to do anything that would place anyone’s health at risk.
Post # 24
I work on a kids ward, although it wasn’t for a proposal, we set up a date for the parents of a child. He was a longterm patient and they had been going through a rough patch due to the stress. So we made sure someone was around to sit and hang with their son while we set up a little date for them with some extra meals we cheekily ordered one evening. They were on the main ward but it was quiet and we pulled the curtains around an empty bed space that we had replaced with a table and chairs.
Post # 25
Wow! Thank you so much for all of the responses! I am so grateful for all of your awesome ideas! I went through a few of them with my sister’s fiance. I really liked the idea of doing a scrapbook, but he seemed to think it would take too long and was set on proposing as soon as possible. He ended up doing the “date” idea. I am so glad people mentioned flameless candles! Definitely added to the atmosphere.
She had a procedure yesterday and knew we would be coming to be with her. We stayed with her until they took her to the operating room. Then we set everything up and ordered take out from a restaurant they like. I told him that he had to get champagne flutes, but since she can’t drink with the medication she is on and everything he got sparkling cider rather than wine. He picked out a lace designed table cloth and had to fold it to put it on the tray table in her room. Then he set up the table to look like they were out to dinner with the flowers and candles.
I left while she was still in the recovery room after the procedure. We talked about me staying to take photos of the proposal, but I thought it might seem weird/obvious for him to tell her “We’re having a romantic date night, but your sister is just going to hang out in the corner there”. I did take a few photos while we were setting things up.
We spoke to her nurse about it first. I was glad we did because I wanted to see if they could have some uninterrupted time together and not have someone coming in to take vital signs while he is down on one knee. The nurse was so excited about it that I don’t think there was a person in the hospital who did not know about it. About ten staff members stopped in her room while she was having her procedure to ask to see the ring! It was nice though that everyone was so excited.
I didn’t want to bother them last night so I called today and my sister told me what happened. She said that when she was brought back from recovery (and was given the okay to eat again) She entered the room to find it set up like they were going out to eat. Her boyfriend told her that he wanted to surprise her with a date night since they hadn’t been out in a while. After the dinner he played their song on his phone and asked her to dance with him. He was going to do it then, but she had to use the bathroom! She came out of the bathroom to find him on one knee with the ring and said yes without him even saying “Will you marry me?”
I’m just so happy that she is happy. They told me everybody coming in the room from nurses to aides to housekeeping already knows and is congratulating them. The doctor said it is the first proposal he has seen in a hospital.
I’m glad that it worked out and wanted to thank everyone here so much for all of the help and advice. I wish I had photos of the proposal to show you. I only have photos while we were still arranging things. He did more after I left, but this should give you an idea.You can see here that it is a tray table in her room. They took her on her bed down to the OR.
The room still looks kind of messy here. You can see our coffees! I wish I had taken better pictures!
Well, I’m sure you get the idea.
Thank you everyone!!
Post # 27
Ahh, I’m glad it turned out so well!!
Post # 28
This is the sweetest and most amazing thing ever! Congratulations to your sister and her fiance!!!
Post # 30
BriansBride : ooooh, thank you for the update! I was thinking of you and your sister today, and I’m so glad that it worked out so beautifully! Congratulations to them both! ❤️