Hospital Proposal Advice

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

BriansBride :  I am so sorry to hear your sister is so sick? It is so lovely you want to help, is she well enough to go in a wheelchair around the grounds? I know an engagement in hospital isn’t ideal but nor is her condition, some hospitals have lovely grounds, some even have ponds? Maybe he could take her for some fresh air and do it there? 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FutureDrAtkins :  I feel like that would be way too much stress for even just a few seconds…bad scans are traumatic…would be a cute idea for someone evaluating a scan ( like a tech or dr) but not an actual patient.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

BriansBride :  in some hospitals they have a chapel which can be a really pretty space- or nice outdoor areas you can decorate with candles ect. I would talk to the nurses/staff and see what they think!

I am really sorry your sister is going through this, cancer is the worst.  

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

FutureDrAtkins :  brilliant!  haha

 

I’m not sure if this would be super illegal BUT I was thinking he could dress up as a nurse or doctor or something, mask on so she doesn’t know right away, and come up with some cheesy medical-type jargon that could lead into a proposal… “So Ms. Blah Blah, your labs show you are missing something from your left hand..” idk, then mask off, down on one knee.  I’d love something silly like that.

Post # 20
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Honey bee

There is a nice garden area at our local hospital. If shes cleared for going out for a bit maybe in the garden (they’re usually attached to a door in the hospital and wheelchair accessible). 

Im sorry to hear about your sister. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

A lot of hospitals have pretty little outside areas that are used to encourage patients to get outside if they’re able, or for employee breaks. You could ask the nurses if they have an outdoor area where sister’s bf could hang some lights and set up for a proposal. I work in health care, and I imagine most nurses would be open to helping in whatever way they can to make this special.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Definitely get the hospital staff involved- in addition to the nurses ask to speak with the unit social worker. While the nurses change from shift to shift and even doctors rotate weekly/bi-weekly the social worker will maintain constant and will be a great resource to coordinate and plan the proposal over time. You’d be surprised what we can arrange for patients in the hospital!

Of course your sister’s condition and current functionality (is she eating, can she get out of bed, etc.) will play a role in what can be done but in my experience (as a hospital employee) we will go above and beyond for an opportunity to give our patients- especially long-term ones- a special and happy experience. I remember one time recently when we arranged a special steak dinner for a transplant patient and his wife’s 30th anniversary it was a beautiful moment for the patient, his family, and all of the staff. 

Like everyone has said you are an amazing sister! I am so sorry for what your siser and your family are going through and wish you all the best of luck! 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

It’s possible someone on the hospital staff might have some ideas.  I’m sure they’ve had this scenario arise before.  I’m not sure who would be a good point of contact — is there someone who is assigned to your sister’s case who is a social worker or counselor or something similar?  

The big challenge is going to be ensuring the proposal doesn’t do anything to risk her health or the health of any other patients on the ward.  It would be a good idea to run the plan by the charge nurse or someone to ensure you’re not going to do anything that would place anyone’s health at risk.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

I work on a kids ward, although it wasn’t for a proposal, we set up a date for the parents of a child. He was a longterm patient and they had been going through a rough patch due to the stress. So we made sure someone was around to sit and hang with their son while we set up a little date for them with some extra meals we cheekily ordered one evening. They were on the main ward but it was quiet and we pulled the curtains around an empty bed space that we had replaced with a table and chairs. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

Sooo adorable!!!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Ahh, I’m glad it turned out so well!!

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

This is the sweetest and most amazing thing ever! Congratulations to your sister and her fiance!!! 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Such a beautiful story!! 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

BriansBride :  ooooh, thank you for the update! I was thinking of you and your sister today, and I’m so glad that it worked out so beautifully! Congratulations to them both! ❤️

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