Post # 1
A co-worker really wants to throw me a bachelorette party. We are not close by any means and she is not invited to the wedding. I have told her no thank you but like I said, she really wants to do this.
Post # 3
Does she know that she’s not invited to the wedding?
Post # 4
As long as she knows she wont be invited and she still wants to, then fine. (as summer7911 said)
Some people just like to throw these things and look for any excuse. Maybe she never had her own and likes to do this for people?
Post # 5
Personally I would keep saying thank you but no thank you. Especially if you don’t know her that well
Post # 6
It may be that she is assuming that she is invited to the wedding. If she is not, keep politely but firmly declining. Also, it may be a good idea to clue her in that she’s not invited and she may just withdraw the offer.
Post # 7
@keniki: I agree with the PPs. If it weren’t outside of work, like if she wanted to throw you a bridal SHOWER in the conference room and decorate your desk or something, that’s ok. You are a work aquantaince and that would be a work event. There was a lady at my old job that just looooved to be the one who coordinated office type parties (retirement, birthday, baby/bridal, etc). But outside of work, thank you but no thank you. I’d feel akward if I was partying with anyone who wasn’t my real deal down and dirty girlfriends for a bachelorette party…