Hosted Beer and Wine pay for hard alcohol

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
3381 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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heatdisneybride :  I find anytime you ask guests to pull out their wallets, it’s tacky. Having just beer and wine is fine – skip he hard alcohol altogether. There may be people who would prefer to drink liquor, but i promise you those people will drink beer or wine if liquor isn’t available. 

Post # 17
7594 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like this type of thing is normal in your circle so I say go for it. What’s deemed acceptable in one region may be unacceptable in another (examples: cash bars, making your bridesmaids pay for their dresses), so it always bewilders me why people see this issue so black & white and have the expectation that the norms for their circle should be applied to the whole universe.

Post # 18
614 posts
Busy bee

You will get different answers from different people because we all come from different areas. The way alcohol is handled across weddings is not as clear cut as some of the other etiquette matters. So if this is how it’s been done at other weddings you’ve been to and is normal for your area, it’s fine.

Post # 19
2842 posts
Sugar bee

Are you providing champagne for the toast?

Post # 20
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

This is what we are doing, as well. Our reception venue allows us to bring in our own beer/wine and they also have a stocked cash bar where people can buy hard alcohol drinks if they choose to. For us, it was the perfect solution. We don’t want to pay a lot of money for every type of alcohol people may want, and limiting our purchase to beer/wine is really going to keep the costs down.

Post # 21
235 posts
Helper bee

I think this is fine. Cash bars are most common in my circle but if any alcohol is provided it’s beer/wine with a cash option for liquor.

We did this for our own wedding.

Post # 22
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

I personally think guests shouldn’t have to pull out their wallets. I would skip the hard alcohol cash bar and just serve beer and wine. I went to a wedding last weekend that was beer and wine only and it was very nice.

Post # 23
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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heatdisneybride :  I think it depends on your area,  I’ve seen lots of bees say this is rude, but in my circles every hosted occasion I’ve been to has been free beer/wine or spirits at bar prices. 

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