(Closed) Hostess Gifts? Need Ideas!!! (A Bit of a Different Situation)

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Lucky gal you are getting more than one shower.  Shows people really do love you and excited by your wedding.  You are blessed for sure.

From an etiquette point of view… If the 13 year old’s name is on the Invite as a Hostess… then YES you have to thank her appropriately… to not do so would be a SNUB

(Guessing here that her Mom wants to make her feel more grown up, and connected to the idea of Marriage is a big deal… Mom is probably using it as a teaching moment… so don’t disappoint.  Do the right thing, and send her a SEPERATE Thank You note and gift)

As you say the gift doesn’t have to be as large as the one for her Mom, who is obviously going to be doing more (guessing tho that the 13 year old will be helping out… certainly was something I did as a teen when my Mom was Hosting people in our home… taking Coats, passing nibbles, etc)

If she loves to dance then that is a good place to start… a charm of ballerina shoes comes to mind.

But if you are truly stuck, it would be ok to ask her Mom after the Party what she might like (in so much as you would be sending your Thank You Notes & Gifts afterwards)

As for the other Party’s Hostess, your friend… a Massage sounds lovely.  I am sure she’ll appreciate it.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lovein’ the Sunshine idea…

Perhaps a consumable Thank You Gift better fits this family… because sadly, as you have pointed out, they don’t seem to get the value to be found in a long term gift that keeps on giving.




Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is a gift card too impersonal?  I think at that age they love going hang out with friends and at the movies.  Maybe a movie gift card?

Post # 7
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Coral99:  Maybe for your aunts a few items, like a nice bottle of wine and a nice candle or a B&BW lotion? Or one of those things and a lovely bouquet of flowers in a beautiful vase? 

As a dance coach, I think the 13 year old would love some funky “foot undiez” or “dance paws”, as we call them. It’s always nice to have a cute pair in your dance bag for dance class! You can get them online at all different price points or at any local dance supply store: http://www.amazon.com/Soles-Danshuz-Neoprene-choices-Leopard/dp/B00DZ9SK82/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&qid=1375651651&sr=8-15&keywords=Dance+paws

And I think a massage for your friend sounds lovely!

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