Hostess taking advantage? at a loss how to handle….

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 76
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1274 posts
Bumble bee

Ha ha, no. Tell her to go suck on a turkey leg.

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

How was the original invitation worded? I suspect some man fuckery in this, or at least it could be one explanation. I mean here, lack  of clarity in what the host intended to provide and his poor communication of same could be a major culprit.

If I understand correctly, the party takes place at the home of your DH’s co-worker who is a man. Somehow the co-worker’s gf got drafted into being a hostess. ? Maybe?

But still this situation is very strange and very funny. OP,you have got to keep us informed!

Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Initially I would have suggested you go and just bring the side and bottle of wine, but after reading your response about other guests being flabbergasted at the amount of food/drink they are being asked to bring I think I’d skip it.  It is bound to be one awkward, suck-y party.  

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This is crazy! Why put on a party if you dont want to make anything for it?! Did she just want the attention of being the host without actually putting in the effort. INSANE. and to top it off, her response EERKS me – I hope no one shows and she ends up with butter and ice cubes. 

 

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  OH MY GOSH, HER REASONING IS PRICELESS! Wants to host the event, but would rather look cute than actually do hosting duties. lololol My mind is blown over this.

I’m in America and a couple of my friends groups do “friendsgivings” – usually we have a local grocery store make the turkey so that none of us have to spend the day being “chained to an oven.” Girlfriend nees to be more resourceful…or at the very least, more tactful

 

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper

Aaaaaah. So she wants to be a guest at her own dinner party. It sounds as if she got her wish. (And as if she won’t be around for long–not the woman you envision having decades worth of holidays with…) Can’t wait for the report. 

Post # 83
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge

Dude. Write back and tell her how ridiculous her requests are. What in the world? It’s her event and you’re somehow supposed to bring the entire meal?! I don’t understand. You might as well have it at your house then! 

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

She sounds like a keeper 😂

Post # 85
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  Reading your update, you need to go and share all the ridiculousness with us!

Post # 86
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  Thanks for the update.  It sounds like this poor man has got himself into a terrible relationship!  But he sounds like a good guy who totally gets it so I’d attend the party and just try to be nice.  I highly doubt that this Girlfriend is going to last long and if she does she’ll probably end up realizing her misstep and changing her ways.  

What a CRAZY woman.  Yikes.  If she doesn’t want to spend time chained to the oven she has lots of options (potluck, BBQ, catering) other than treating her guests like caterers.  What a B.

Post # 87
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh wow. I’m with you: torn between going (because she sounds nuts, and so it could be entertaining) and wanting to stay the hell out of it… What a lunatic. 

Post # 88
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7373 posts
Busy Beekeeper

RED FLAG!

RED FLAG!

What a selfish ass bitch. 

Post # 89
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hahaha…this seems so unreal!  You will still have fun with everyone else besides her, right?  So please go.  And then tell us every single play by play.  and possibly still take a live turkey.

Post # 90
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Buzzing bee

This is an amazing thread. I probably would’ve skipped the party, except you said she’s being this nasty to everyone else, too. So, maybe this is a situation where you can go bond with the other people there who have experienced her ridiculousness, and just laugh at her behavior? I’d fully expect a blow-up from her at some point during the day, which could be quite entertaining!

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