Post # 1
So my fiance and I are going to the caribbean on a weddingmoon next April. We’re invited our parents and sisters but no one else, we just want a intimate affordable wedding. That next month though we want to have a party for all our family and friends that didn’t go to the wedding. We are on a very tight budget though, so I was wondering if we’re obligated to pay for everyone’s food and drinks, since I know it’s inappropriate to get or even expect gifts. I was originally thinking a backyard thing with casual catering (like BBQ or something) and beer and wine, but even that will get expensive for all our family plus friends. So then I was thinking having something at a restaurant, but I kind of have too many people for that.
Post # 2
We are having a small destination wedding with a reception at home the following weekend. For our reception it is very casual but we are having catered barbeque and a full open bar. People in our circle like their alcohol so that was important. But it has been very affordable. I dont know what your budget is but our catering is 1500 for 120ppl after fees and taxes.
A lady at my work had a reception that was pot luck, so if your budget is really tight then maybe that could be an option.
I would look into the bbq catering, there are a lot of places that are so so affordable. And you could always just cater the meat and have potato salad, veggies, fruit, chips, pasta salad..etc. on the side that you could just buy in bulk and not really have to prepare or cook..
I personally like the idea of providing everything for my guest. I have been to weddings where stuff is not provided and its just fine! Just my preference.
Post # 3
We got married privately 3 weeks ago and our party is in 2.5 weeks! We rented a BBQ restaurant for 80 people and paying $12pp for buffet. We are having open bar, but the restaurant is wine/beer only, so I expect we will be right around $2,000 total. Party is in mid-afternoon and not at a standard mealtime.
I found at least two other restaurants willing to offer a similar cost.
Post # 4
We’re getting married in less than 3 weeks in Alaska, it will be a weddingmoon as well but just the two of us are going. We’re having a small dinner cruise celebration back in MN in early June with about 40 close family and friends. The dinner cruise boat we’re using is owned by a local restaurant on the lake and we will be taking it out for 3 hours during the evening. The restaurant will cater on the boat and provide drinks as well. It’s a really fun yet casual way for us to celebrate our marriage with loved ones! Plus after we return from the ride, the restaurant will have a live band playing outside (a typical saturday event there) so guests are welcome to stay and enjoy some music after the ride. It’s definitely worth looking into different options in your area until something speaks to you!
Post # 5
I’m considering the same thing, a post-wedding casual party. Have you considered having a backyard potluck celebration? And encourage guests to BYOB? Depending on when we have our party, we may have to wind up renting a fire hall if the cost is bearable. That might be an option for you if you need indoor space.
Post # 6
Personally, as a guest, I find backyard potluck BBQs lots more fun than formal affairs. BYOB is fine too. Congrats on your upcoming ‘weddingmoon’, sounds lovely 🙂
Post # 7
My fiance and I were actually discussing this ourselves. We were looking at providing the “bare bones” if you will – pulled pork, brisket, buns, beans, slaw, tea, water, beer- about $500-600. And have our guests skip a gift and bring a dish, a bottle, a box of cookies, whatever. Then we could also nip the “Let me know if I can help” in the bud!