(Closed) Hosting a Welcome Party after the Rehearsal Dinner

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Hosting a welcome party for all guests after the private rehearsal dinner
    Cash Bar + hosted hor d'oeuvres : (5 votes)
    26 %
    $500 tab and then switch to cash bar when it runs out and NO hor d'oeuvres : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Passed champagne (free), hor d'oeuvres (free) + cash bar : (12 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 4
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think that it is ok.  But I do think you could not offer booze.  I think you could have quite a lovely party without alcohol.  But you cannot properly host any party and then charge your guests for a portion of that hospitality. 


    Post # 6
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Is there somewhere else nearby that you could host a small party?  Inviting guests for appetizers and making them pay for alcohol after you and your bridal party have clearly had dinner there isn’t the greatest impression.  Could you perhaps opt for a pizza place that would have a homey atmosphere where your money would buy a lot of pizza, pop and beer?  I think less elegant but more welcoming might be a better way to go.

    Post # 7
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I voted for hor d’oeuvres and cash bar. I think instead of a hosted welcome party, you can consider this more as a meet and greet. Guests can stop by, say hello, chat a little, and buy a drink at the bar if they want to hang out.

    Post # 9
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think you need to talk to the venue and see what they can provide to fit your budget and if they will work with you a little more. I think based on your options, you need to provide the most to your guests who are not attending the dinner and especially if you choose one where not everyone might get a drink or an appetizer, it seems like its more of a meet and greet than something you should even send invitations for. 

    Post # 10
    78 posts
    Worker bee

    Something we’ve done for friend’s – one of the bridal party shoots an email saying “we will meet for drinks at X location, starting at X time”  Much like just going to a bar with everyone.  

    If you want to do formal invitations, you could say “join us for champagne and snacks” it’s somewhat understood cash bar.  

    Post # 11
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Cash bar and host hor dourves is perfect. Or maybe something where, soda, is free? I see nothing wrong with a cash bar. I think sometimes when things are open bar people abuse it.

    If it’s not in your budget don’t worry about it.

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