Post # 1
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<div class=”AuthorWrap”>I am hosting the bridal shower for my future sister in law and my mother said she doesn’t think I should get a gift since I’m hosting the shower. I have only been to one other bridal shower and I don’t remember if the host gave the bride and groom a gift. I would feel crappy not giving them a gift. Does the host normally give a gift for the shower? I am definitely giving them something for the wedding. I just didn’t know how this works. </div>
Post # 2
When you say hosting, does that mean you are covering the cost of the shower?
I don’t think you have to give a gift even if you were only a guest but it would be nice to give her a small thoughtful gift, something sentimental to mark the occasion.
Post # 3
zzar45 : Yes, I am covering the cost of the shower, planning the shower, creating the games we play, buying prizes for the winners, welcoming the guests, and anything else that needs done. My mother is also assisting me.
Post # 4
vgrimes93 : My suggesstion would be get her something small and personal. Dont go and get some fancy gift or anything, maybe a nice picture frame with a picture of the two of you. Or a nice bottle of wine or champagne you can share on the wedding day or morning or something like that. The fact that you are organizing, planning and paying for the shower is way more meaningful than any gift. So go simple and personal if you feel the need to buy a gift of top of everything!
Post # 5
I think it is entirely up to you. You are putting a lot of time, money and effort into hosting this shower for her, which is a very generous gift in and of itself. You will also, I assume, give her a wedding gift. If you do give her a shower gift, I’d probably make it something small and personal. But your mother is correct that you are by no means obligated or even expected to give one.
Post # 6
I, personally would still get a gift. I wouldn’t break my budget or anything to get them something super nice, but I would still get her something small!