(Closed) Hosting my parents 30th anniversary party

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If someone asks if they can bring anything, request something that can be before the meal (fruit/cheese/veggie trays) or after (desserts!!) or ask them to bring a few bottles of wine or buy a small keg.  If you’re already planning a meal, I’d avoid having people bring heavy food- it might not all go together or you might end up with 4 different pasta salads.  Most people who offer to bring something genuinely want to help, so appetizers, desserts, or drinks would be really helpful since you have dinner under control.

Ps-it’s really sweet of you to offer to host their anniversary party!!

Post # 5
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think if they offer, it’s ok to accept.  If you want, you could buy a case or so of wine just to have some on hand, and take people up on their offers to bring some extra.  Do you have a family member who makes a banging apple pie?  You could enlist the help of close family members, I don’t think that would be rude or tacky.  If they offer, take them up on it!

Post # 6
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We threw a 35th party for them (at the gazebo for the condo association, talk about tricky in terms of getting them out of the house the day before, shenigans to get the house cleaned for them for the inevitable folks over after, even reserving the gazebo was tricky because my mom was secretary or president of the association at the time so we had to get a neighbor to put it in her name) and they absolutely loved it and were completely surprised!  (My dad afterwards announced with a large smile that he wasn’t sure if he should be pleased or worried we were able to pull off the covert op.)  We were also impressed at the people that came – friends, family, even some people my dad had rescued (he was Coast Guard officer) with whom they kept in touch.  My sister raided their holiday list for names.  🙂  *If* people offer, are close family/friends, then I don’t see a problem with accepting something small for each person to help out with, such as bringing a bit of wine or beer.  It’ll probably get confusing to have too many people trying to bring food so alcohol is easier.  If you want them to bring food, I would suggest asking them to bring an appetizers or dessert, with you handling the main course.  It may be tricky with plating, so consider disposable.  We had food from Costco catering for lunch and for those who stayed on (a lot), bbq fixings for the evening and a sandwich platter.  For those from a distance (California to Florida) and staying overnight, we did a Costco platter of crossants and such.  But honestly my sister did all of the work organizing it – I just pulled out my wallet!  Honestly, all told it was about $1500 split between my sister and I (my brother was not in a position to chip in), but we had added expenses like housecleaning and my sister did go a little overboard in some things. 

One of their good friends flying out from the other coast asked if they’d be free afterwards so they could spent more time together, so I told them I wanted to stay on an extra two days (I was studying for the bar at the time) so they’d keep that time “free.”  They were then able to drive down to see the Rhode Island mansions with them.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they offer, accept. If they don’t offer, don’t ask.

Plan your event so that you can handle it yourself if need be. It doesn’t have to a formal, multi course affair.

Post # 10
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When is the party? 8 weeks before is good – at the 4-6 week mark I’m making plans already.

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