(Closed) Hosting our own engagement party!

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We hosted our own and it was great! We got gifts, but its not a gift giving event so I didn’t feel it was poor etiquitte. We never asked for gifts, just for everyone to come, eat, drink, and celebrate with us. It’s no different than a birthday party – you throw it yourself and get gifts.

We paid for everything, but had my cousin and Maid/Matron of Honor run the game (there was one – just for laughs) and we said thank you. That was it. Keep it simple!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Father-In-Law threw us an engagement party in NY back in May and we’re throwing ourselves on the end of this month in Cali πŸ™‚

 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think gifts are expected at engagement parties though, are they?

Fiance and I hosted our own.  It wasn’t elaborate or anything.  I work at a local hotel so I got a meeting space for free.  We had a potluck to cut down on costs and it was basically only his family, so it wasn’t a traditional party in the sense that it wasn’t for our families to come together and meet (my mom had sort of disowned me at the time and my dad and his side of the family live 500 miles away, so I don’t have much of a bride’s side, either).  

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@UpstateCait:  You don’t receive gifts anengagement parties. That being said go ahead and throw your own EP! Have fun πŸ™‚

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@icetea:  Yay! Keep us posted on how it goes πŸ™‚

Post # 26
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Wannabee

We hosted our own party with our family friends. It was a huge celebration over a night. Full of fun with loud music, food items and ofcourse drinks.Laughing

 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We plan to host our own engagement party.  We were in a long distance relationship prior to him moving to NY to be with me so this gives a chance for our family/friends to  meet.  We are doing it at a hall, cash bar.  Him and I love to cook, so we will make all the food (which we are excited about).  I am also making it very clear on the invites to come for fun, food, and laughs and please NO gifts.  I was invited to an engagement party once and the invite had a registry card in it.  T A C K Y!!

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are hosting our own engagement party as well. My mom reared her head at another party–I guess in her mind a party = more gifts, and she felt as if I will be having enough chances to get gifts from people and that it would be too much to expect gifts from anyone. I tried explaining to her that my intentions are not to get as many gifts as I can, but to celebrate our engagement with our friends. She still said she wanted nothing to do with an engagement party. At first I was upset, but whatever, it will be more fun if its just friends anyway!

So we are going to throw it at our favorite restaurant in Philadelphia, just friends (maybe 20 people?) and I am writing “please, no gifts” on the invitiation. Take that, Mom!

I honestly don’t think there is anything wrong with throwing your own engagement party. My thought process when it came to deciding to have one or not was that this will really be the only time that our friends will all be together before the rehearsal dinner. My girlfriends will be at the bridal shower, but the guys (obviously) won’t. The next “wedding-related event” is the rehearsal dinner! I don’t want to wait until the night before the wedding to celebrate. And to me, our engagement is definitely worth celebrating. So go for it!

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I personally see nothing wrong with it. We will probably be doing the same thing. I want to gather close friends and family to celebrate our engagement . I dont expect anyone to host one for us, I would rather us do it ourselves. just something simple  that will give us some memories to share and to celebrate. 

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