Hosting Own Bridal Shower

posted 6 months ago in Traditions
Post # 3
558 posts
Busy bee

elizabeth1391 :  Yes, it is rude to host a gift giving party for yourself. However, in my group of friends, there is almost always a “bridesmaid luncheon” close to the wedding where the bride treats the bridesmaid for all of their help and support. I think a brunch or something similar would be fine, as long as you are not asking for presents. 

Post # 4
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Poor etiquitte be damned! Yes, you can throw your own shower, but given all the family drama will people show up? 

Post # 5
960 posts
Busy bee

I have been to three bridal showers recently and have absolutely no idea who “hosted,” so I say go for it. If you don’t want to ruffle feathers, call it a “bridal brunch,” in which case people will most likely not bring presents.

Post # 6
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I know this is about throwing your own shower but… what the heck happened financially to cause your mother to stop speaking to you and three girls to drop out?

I agree with pp, if things are that bad over a financial situation, would it really be in your best interest to have them invited to a shower where you ask for gifts and money?

That’s a ton of stress right before the wedding, so I’m sorry you’re dealing with that 

Post # 8
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Go ahead and throw yourself a shower. People throw themselves weddings and guests bring gifts. You can throw yourself a shower and the guests can bring gifts.

Post # 9
833 posts
Busy bee

Sorry you’re going through this and hope you and your parents can mend fences. mCould you have a birthday party or rehearsal dinner in the venue?  

Post # 10
7758 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It is very nice for you to have a fun social gathering with your friends. It is a little awkward to plan a party specifically for you to get gifts. With all the drama you’ve already experienced, I wouldn’t be surprised if this extra event also led to some frustration. 

Post # 11
45551 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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<div class=”row-fluid center”>There is never an occasion when it is proper for an adult to host a gift giving occasion birthday,bridal shower, baby shower etc) for themselves.</div>
<div class=”row-fluid center”>Although your relationship with your family is strained right now, there is nothing stopping your friends from hosting a shower should they so desire. Unfortunately, there is no entitlement to a shower.</div>
<div class=”row-fluid center”>If you truly want a gathering of your friends and you have no friends interested in hosting a shower, it is acceptable for you to invite your friends to brunch, lunch, tea etc with no mention of gifts or any registry. if someone does bring a gift, you open it in private so you don’t make other guests feel like they should also have brought a gift.</div>
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Post # 12
3031 posts
Sugar bee

elizabeth1391 :  Screw it and do it so you don’t lose your deposit. I commented on the last topic about this that outside the bees no one ever cares who threw the bride a shower. Same with PP, I have no idea who threw the last 3 showers I attended too.  If I knew you, it wouldn’t stop me from going and giving you a gift. It’s a different world out there without the etiquette police on patrol. 

Post # 13
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m going to be completely honest here…

If I was invited to a shower that someone was throwing for themselves, it would leave a bitter taste in my mouth. I’ve never been a fan of people being “gift grabby”. Personally, if I were in your situation I would just not have one. I think people forget that showers aren’t mandatory. It’s a nice extra if someone would like to treat you to one.  With that said, you know your crowd best and they might not even bat an eye at this. I would base your decision on how well this would be received by your guests.

Post # 14
332 posts
Helper bee

elizabeth1391 :  I would just do it and ask some good friends to help you plan and MC the shower, since you should definitely not be MCing your own shower. People can RSVP to your friends.

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