Post # 1
I live in another city and I planned my friend’s bridal shower as I am her Maid/Matron of Honor and the only person in her bridal party.
Our friend let us use her house and she asked if I needed help but I only asked her to provide drinks so she made punch and provided some pop but she gave her a card and money.
I bought all the food, desserts, decorations, game prizes and shower favors plus the gas for our 6 hour trip.
I didn’t end up giving her a gift and I guess I felt guilty and now I’m wondering if I should have?
She was getting really amazing gifts as most people did group gifts, she initially wanted money as they didn’t register but her cousins pressured her into doing so and she ended up only registering for 1 item =P
Post # 3
This is one of those times where I wish brides would be more upfront with the people throwing the shower/bacholertte, etc. Honestly, to me, she should have told you that throwing the shower was gift enough.
I would not feel guilty for this. I recently threw my sister a shower. She didn’t expect a gift from me at all. I doubt that the bride in this case does either. You should be really pleased and proud that you were able to give her a wonderful party with all of her friends and family. 🙂
Post # 4
Your gift was the shower. She should send you a thank you and acknowledge that.
Post # 5
All of the hostesses of my shower gave me a gift, but it wouldn’t have bothered me at all if they hadn’t (especially my cousin who did most of the work).
Post # 6
EDIT: I should have also said that if you wanted to give a gift, that’s great and really nice…but you shouldn’t feel like you should or that you have to.
Post # 7
My shower hostess gave me a gift as well, but I don’t think there’s any expectation.
Post # 8
I’ve hosted several showers and normally give them gifts as well, but if you didn’t because of lack of funds or time… in the case of something hand crafted don’t worry about it. For my cousin’s wedding, I took about 6 months to finish her wedding sampler. The frame was my Christmas present and the cross stitched sampler was her wedding gift. (It took hours and hours and hours of work… and the frame wasn’t a cheap one!
Post # 9
Thanks for all the replies, I feel much better about the whole thing.
I would have liked to but I just had my own wedding in July and we are in the middle of renovations. I am still going to get her a wedding gift but I just wasn’t sure about this one.
Post # 10
My mom hosted our engagement party and didn’t give a gift. She spent a ton and worked really hard on it making it special and personal to us, so I didn’t expect a gift. I always give a little gift if I’m hosting, but nothing huge.