- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I understand where you are coming from. My Fiance slept with his close family friend (like practically raised as a sister since he was 4) on and off for 3.5 years whenever they were both home and not in relationships. I knew this before we started dating and met her about 3 months into dating my Fiance. No one else in the family “knows”, although deep down I think everyone knows. There has been instances where she has gotten too close for comfort and I have been very upfront with my Fiance and let him know what is acceptable for me with them and what is not. She is now engaged and her Fiance does not have a clue what has happened. They bicker like brother and sister and share a unique relationship but I cannot get out of my head that they have slept together. I told him long before we got engaged that I did not want her in the wedding even though she is considered “family”. In fact, because she and I had a rocky relationship for other issues I did not want her knowing that he was going to proposed prior to doing it.
Now we are getting married in Maui and taking just immediately family with us. His parents wanted to know if we were inviting her since she was basically raised as a sister. This wedding is going to be small, us, our best friends, my parents, his parents, and biological sister. A total of 11 people. Should I invite her since we are kind of friends now and also to make his family happy? Fiance is not pressuring me but I know he wants to invite her because he views her as a sister and his parents will probably want to say something. Part of me wants to invite her since we are friendly but part of me wants to stick to my guns.