(Closed) Hosting your own engagement party?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it okay in todays modern times for couples to host their own engagement party?

    Heck yea, it MY party and I'll host if I want to!

    Not really sure about the etiquette stuff...

    No. But I know of couples that have.

    Absolutely not. Its just...tacky

  • Post # 3
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    To me it just seems like asking for gifts. I’d think it was weird if a couple hosted an engagement party for themselves. You could still have one at your apartment, but I’d at least have my parents or his parents “host” it and provide food/drinks and be listed as hosts on the invitation. 

    That’s just me though… every social circle is different, so if it’s common for couples in your friends/family to do that then I think it’s fine! 

    ETA: even if you don’t want or care about presents, I think most people will assume they should bring a gift to an engagement party…

    Post # 4
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If you’re worried, I’d just title it a housewarming party on the invite and send them to all the same people you’d want at the engagement party! I don’t see why it would be bad to host your own engagement party… I don’t even think we are having one unless we plan it ourselves 🙁   Nobody has brought it up and we’ve been engaged over a year.  I definitely feel that it’s ok for you to take the reigns and plan your own party! 

    Post # 5
    1875 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hosting your own pre-wedding parties is usually considered very tacky and comes off as gift grabby – even if you don’t want gifts.  What was wrong with your FIs hosting a party?  Or, why not just have a normal party at your house?  No need to tack on the engagement part.

    Post # 6
    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I think it’s perfectly okay to host your own engagement party! You want to celebrate your happiness with your friends. Maybe it’s just because I was raised to not expect gifts from anybody for anything, but I don’t think it sounds “gift grabby” at all.

    Personally I would just invite everybody over for a party and then at the beginning announce how happy you are that your friends have gathered to celebrate your engagement. Or, you could have it at a restaurant or a bar. While I wouldn’t feel obligated to bring a gift to a person’s non-gift party, I would feel even less obligated if it was a night out.

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